Dating - is it possible?

Exactly my point, if both the male and female are avdP types
they will inevitably not approach each other, AND even if they do
they might not talk enough to each other to make any sort of meaningful connection

in the end my prediction would be that they would avoid each other for fear of encountering someone similar to them that might "know" them a little too much........ if you know what I mean

Don't get me wrong, I've had this fantasy too..... but for me at least I can now recognize this is only a fantasy......


Oh well

I'm a 21 year old male and I agree with everything posted in this entire thread. It's like the original post could have been written by myself.

And if you're interested I did try dating someone with Social Anxiety Disorder. Although that very much depends what your definition of 'try' is. I've noticed a pattern in myself that every 6 months or so I get lonely enough that I attempt to make a human connection This was one of those attempts, 6 years ago, so I was 15 (and come to think of it, the only one that didn't end in massive rejection). Like the original post describes I think what I liked about her was that she seemed to have more social problems than I did. Like she couldn't go to a restaurant and order for herself. What happened? Well I had a massive crush on her for years, never told her, never told anyone. A long enough time passed and the crush went away. Now she's the only person I do talk to. Even then I don't talk about myself, ever. The facepalm moment is when she told me she had a crush on me back when we met. I'll probably never admit to having felt the same.

My most successful female relationship of all time. That's the truth and it sounds realllly depressing and pathetic.

Better than me - I have a five year cycle.

Price wrote:I'm a 21 year old male and I agree with everything posted in this entire thread. It's like the original post could have been written by myself.

And if you're interested I did try dating someone with Social Anxiety Disorder. Although that very much depends what your definition of 'try' is. I've noticed a pattern in myself that every 6 months or so I get lonely enough that I attempt to make a human connection This was one of those attempts, 6 years ago, so I was 15 (and come to think of it, the only one that didn't end in massive rejection). Like the original post describes I think what I liked about her was that she seemed to have more social problems than I did. Like she couldn't go to a restaurant and order for herself. What happened? Well I had a massive crush on her for years, never told her, never told anyone. A long enough time passed and the crush went away. Now she's the only person I do talk to. Even then I don't talk about myself, ever. The facepalm moment is when she told me she had a crush on me back when we met. I'll probably never admit to having felt the same.

My most successful female relationship of all time. That's the truth and it sounds realllly depressing and pathetic.

So you just aren't romantically interested in her at all now? If you are then I think you should try to let her know how you feel. Maybe be subtle about it at first to test her reaction if you can't tell her directly. If the situation is really as you described, and she doesn't already have a boyfriend, then she might not mind being in a relationship with you.

Then again, I'm not in much of a position to be giving dating advice.

Junkis wrote:

Price wrote:I'm a 21 year old male and I agree with everything posted in this entire thread. It's like the original post could have been written by myself.

And if you're interested I did try dating someone with Social Anxiety Disorder. Although that very much depends what your definition of 'try' is. I've noticed a pattern in myself that every 6 months or so I get lonely enough that I attempt to make a human connection This was one of those attempts, 6 years ago, so I was 15 (and come to think of it, the only one that didn't end in massive rejection). Like the original post describes I think what I liked about her was that she seemed to have more social problems than I did. Like she couldn't go to a restaurant and order for herself. What happened? Well I had a massive crush on her for years, never told her, never told anyone. A long enough time passed and the crush went away. Now she's the only person I do talk to. Even then I don't talk about myself, ever. The facepalm moment is when she told me she had a crush on me back when we met. I'll probably never admit to having felt the same.

My most successful female relationship of all time. That's the truth and it sounds realllly depressing and pathetic.

So you just aren't romantically interested in her at all now? If you are then I think you should try to let her know how you feel. Maybe be subtle about it at first to test her reaction if you can't tell her directly. If the situation is really as you described, and she doesn't already have a boyfriend, then she might not mind being in a relationship with you.

Then again, I'm not in much of a position to be giving dating advice.

She does and they're getting married. I don't see how any good could come from telling her.

Im sure its possible, but I dont think its worth it. Dating is constant rejection, financial expenditures, time usage, and emotional stress. Lots of risks, STDs, pregnancy, emotional trauma, etc. Dating is just plain scary.

And for me personally, I have absurd standards, that I cant myself meet. The only woman I would date would be crazy to date me. Which of course, violates one of my standards. No woman I would be happy with, if thats possible, would ever want me.

I understand exactly that dilemma CSRevenant. Feeling that it's impossible makes it very difficult to get motivated to improve myself and overcome my problems. And these problems don't exactly make me attractive.

But, I'm trying. Finally messaged a girl online, didn't get a response, but I'm glad I sent it.

Listener wrote:Finally messaged a girl online, didn't get a response, but I'm glad I sent it.

Good for you!

For me it seems impossible to be in a relationship. I don't even want to, but I also don't want to have no one in life..

neffest wrote:For me it seems impossible to be in a relationship. I don't really want that either.

You sound like me. Kind of. I've come to the conclusion it isn't going to happen because 1) I'm too past my prime and 2) it's too difficult for me to put myself out there. But you never know - maybe I'll be one of those 90 year old first time brides you see on the news every few years...