Possible work related problems

Got to work with the kittys again, I have been bitten and scrched for an hour by diffrent cats. Good thing I love cats in general and could take it well

@ twistermind, all the poeple in that room have one thing in commen, they are there becouse they have diffuculties asserting themself. With that in mind they are more willing to accept someone with social fobia sice they have problems of their own. I dindent want to go with the routine I have gronw accostem to , to act ''normaal'' witch leads to real akward behaviour and exalaste from there

Even if they where to reject me , it a good chase to deal with that siutation that is befinitial to me . Either way I want loose

Slowly but surely I am amking my precense felt , hope I can hold on to this


I do have a problem tho, the assertiness course in taken in on aother city, most of the partisepent are from that town expept for me and an other women. So what happens is that we have to wait for the train for 25 min , be in the train togerther for an other 15 min . When in Rotterdam ( where I and her live) we go our seperate way.

The problem isent so much thats it a stranger but she irritates me like hell .

I heared where so bought here house
How much se paid for it
What kind of pets she hads
How the pets hevae( really corney storys)
What the pets eat
What she was about the eat later in that evening '
The name of here pets
How she prepares special meals for her kittens, how she prepared that whole thing ..

I wanted someone to shoot me right there . There is a limit where I can pretend that im inteested in what the other has to ay but she challanges me to do something stupid . How can I nicly say to her to basicly ###$ off without brining negavtive tension in the meating

Nevergive_up wrote:Got to work with the kittys again, I have been bitten and scrched for an hour by diffrent cats. Good thing I love cats in general and could take it well

You have to be careful. My brother was working in an animal centre and he had to deal what horses, dogs and many other animals. They are sometimes, dangerous.

I do have a problem tho, the assertiness course in taken in on aother city, most of the partisepent are from that town expept for me and an other women. So what happens is that we have to wait for the train for 25 min , be in the train togerther for an other 15 min . When in Rotterdam ( where I and her live) we go our seperate way.

The problem isent so much thats it a stranger but she irritates me like hell .

I heared where so bought here house
How much se paid for it
What kind of pets she hads
How the pets hevae( really corney storys)
What the pets eat
What she was about the eat later in that evening '
The name of here pets
How she prepares special meals for her kittens, how she prepared that whole thing ..

I wanted someone to shoot me right there . There is a limit where I can pretend that im inteested in what the other has to ay but she challanges me to do something stupid . How can I nicly say to her to basicly ###$ off without brining negavtive tension in the meating

Is she that kind of person who talks and talks as hell and don´t let you say a word. If this is the case, I would take another bus or I would go in my own car. I can´t stand very talkative and self-centered people more than 5 minutes. If not, try to find another topics you are interested in and the woman can tall about then, so you can learn more. I like listening to people when they talk me about experiences or things I don´t know. How old is that woman?
You can start talking about the assertiviness course. This is something you are both interested in.

Nevergive_up wrote:I do have a problem tho, the assertiness course in taken in on aother city, most of the partisepent are from that town expept for me and an other women. So what happens is that we have to wait for the train for 25 min , be in the train togerther for an other 15 min . When in Rotterdam ( where I and her live) we go our seperate way.

The problem isent so much thats it a stranger but she irritates me like hell .

I heared where so bought here house
How much se paid for it
What kind of pets she hads
How the pets hevae( really corney storys)
What the pets eat
What she was about the eat later in that evening '
The name of here pets
How she prepares special meals for her kittens, how she prepared that whole thing ..

I wanted someone to shoot me right there . There is a limit where I can pretend that im inteested in what the other has to ay but she challanges me to do something stupid . How can I nicly say to her to basicly ###$ off without brining negavtive tension in the meating

Somethimes I just see if people like that can talk themselves out. If yo don't give them anything to work with then they can run out of things to say. Just kep saying neutral things like "oh really."

Parador wrote:

Nevergive_up wrote:I do have a problem tho, the assertiness course in taken in on aother city, most of the partisepent are from that town expept for me and an other women. So what happens is that we have to wait for the train for 25 min , be in the train togerther for an other 15 min . When in Rotterdam ( where I and her live) we go our seperate way.

The problem isent so much thats it a stranger but she irritates me like hell .

I heared where so bought here house
How much se paid for it
What kind of pets she hads
How the pets hevae( really corney storys)
What the pets eat
What she was about the eat later in that evening '
The name of here pets
How she prepares special meals for her kittens, how she prepared that whole thing ..

I wanted someone to shoot me right there . There is a limit where I can pretend that im inteested in what the other has to ay but she challanges me to do something stupid . How can I nicly say to her to basicly ###$ off without brining negavtive tension in the meating

Somethimes I just see if people like that can talk themselves out. If yo don't give them anything to work with then they can run out of things to say. Just kep saying neutral things like "oh really."

lol I might use that one thx , mabye ad a few you got to be kidding, no way ( in a really sarcastic way obv)

@ twistermind : there is no bus not do I have a car, the only way back home is the train . She is about 50 years old takes a lot of space in the meatings. She is not funny or interstiing she just cant stfu

When I bring in a new subject she harldy pays attention to it but the other way around it just cant stop talking about things no normal person would fiend even slightly intersting . Basicl yeah she is very self centered

So you don´t have another scape appart from your own mind. You can learn how to meditate rounded by people.
What Parador says is a good strategy. Let us know how long can this girl talk about her things without a break!

Perhaps, this woman is all the time alone and she explotes when there is someone who seems to be ready to listen. Another possibility could be that she doesn´t know social abilities and she is nervous, she can´t stand silent-moments and does all possible to interact. But, you have to show her where to stop.
Good luck, mi guapo!

Two weeks ago I asked my father to pick me up and yesterday she dident make it to the meeting. We have one more class in this city and then we move to an other location. There I have plenty options to esacape her presance

Nevergive_up wrote:Two weeks ago I asked my father to pick me up and yesterday she dident make it to the meeting. We have one more class in this city and then we move to an other location. There I have plenty options to esacape her presance

I hope this woman will be alright after the rejection. Perhaps, she has to learn how to be less self-centered.

Up untill now , when someone asked me something I would answer other then that I didnet have anything to say. Untill today where I did make a contribution. Far more talkkative then ussual, poeple actually said the me that they where supprised to see an other side of me that has remained hidden for all this time and they quite liked it .

Got nothing but positive feedback , I have been isolated form the real world for so long that I forgot how it even feels like. I just hope that I can maintain this( without putting to much pressure on my shoulders) so that more of me can be seen. We have a 3 week break but cant wait till the course stars again