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Should I say hello?

Postby sillyface1218 » Sat Jan 30, 2010 5:50 am

I've never used a forum before so I certainly hope I am in the right area. I'm 19 and I'm pretty sure I either have avoidant personality disorder or social anxiety disorder. The more I think about it though, the more I feel like I'm just over reacting or being a hypochondriac. I mean... shouldn't people with personality disorders be unable to understand that they have one? I was browsing the web a few months ago for fun, looking up phobias. I came across social phobia and I felt it really described me. And the last few years I just thought it was just normal or that I was weird. I noticed things like feeling as if EVERYONE talked about me behind my back or thought of me in a bad way. And I hate to have anyone think anything other than good about me. I'm very shy and quiet but I can speak for myself and have no problem being more open once I get to know someone. The problem is getting to know someone never happens when I won't ever meet anyone just out of the blue. I'd have to be introduced by friends or family and not by myself. It didn't bother me having my few close friends from highschool but when I moved to a new high schools I had no one. I've been here for 2 years now and only have one friend. He just went on a 5 month long trip to another country and I feel so alone lately. I really don't know what to do but I'd love to talk to someone or have a normal relationship with a few friends like most college kids. I'm starting to think that maybe I should go see a doctor or something but I don't know where to go. Sorry about the rambling. :?
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Re: Should I say hello?

Postby Darkrun » Sat Jan 30, 2010 11:37 am

Hello :)
firstly no-one on here can tell you defiantly that you have AvPD or SA. you should check out the criteria for these and see if they fit you
AvPD= http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_p ... y_disorder
SA= http://www.helpguide.org/mental/social_ ... atment.htm
as for people with personality disorders not knowing they have one, i think it is that while we feel it is normal, we see that other people (generally the majority) act differently to us, so we decide to see if we have a problem (why i looked anyway).
some of the things you said come across as AvPD (thinking everyone is talking about you, fear of rejection) and some as SA (eg you can talk to people and open up). however don't try to label what you have because you might sub-consciously go down that path (what i am doing :( also 19 :D ). would recommend seeing a psychiatrist if you feel something is wrong, however keep in mind that not every shrink is good, so if you don't like one, find another (what i'm doing)
hope this helps/makes you feel better in someways :)
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Re: Should I say hello?

Postby Parador » Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:15 pm

You aren't rambling at all. I didn't make one friend in college. I didn't find out about avpd until after I had graduated. It didn't really do me much good to find out I had it. Not at that time anyway. When I ended up dealing with some moron shrinks who said I had schizophrenia it helped. I was able to agrue that I was not schizo, but avpd.

I am never sure whether it is good to have friends or not. I have found that friends can become enemies real fast. But I think you are going to have to decide that for yourself. Do you have any interesets or hobbies? You can join some club and meet people that way. I met some people through a chess club. I'm not sure if they were really friends, but they were people. And I knew them. That's something anyay.
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