How to protect oneself from

I don´t know if it´s a matter of me, but I´m beginnig to feel a bit angry with some of my co-workers. They seem to put you a label and they act according to this label forever, so there is no way out for you. If you are nice and and you never say a word louder than other, they believe to have the right to counteract their fustrations on you. Like this father who hits their wife, the mother who gets furious with her child and the child ends up kicking his dog out. I have been living this situation all my life.

As any avoidant I´m hipersensitive, my first reaction when a stupid commentary or an injust criticize takes place is (yeah, I put exactly this face), then I thought is it an irrational thought? yes, no, yes, no, yes, no...At the end I have difficulties to see this person as before. Something is broken.

Do you guys feel the same Do you feel like a ping pang pun doll?

Well, you've heard enough about my job. I didn't have too much interaction with co-workers since I was the supervisor of my section. The other people in the place who I did not supervise would sometimes make petty complaints about me. Some were downright lies. I was once acused of throwing cookies at a secretary. My job was so high profile that I supose that kind of thing was bound to happen. I had 450 people coming in a day at one point. I told my boss it was too many but she didn't care.

It sounds like you need to learn to be assertive. Have you taken any assertiveness training? If someone says something offensive you can just firmly say that you find it rude. I remember a guy who would sometimes make derragatory comments about Jews "He Jewed you down" The first time he said it I said nothing. The second time he said it I asked him politely not to say it because I found it offensive. A year or so later he said it again and I reminded him that I had asked him not to say it anymore. He never said it again.

Yes, my friend. I think one of my first thread was about assertiviness. And I have read two books about this topic. The fact is that sometimes I feel like it doesn´t might worth to say a word. I don´t have a strong relation with any of my co-workers. It´s only that I feel so stupid how many people has a gun shot. There must be the stress.

Maybe you can practice assertiveness through roll playing with someone. Ask a therapist. That's the only idea I have.