asking someone out..

Grats Krang, from what I read in your posts couldn't of happened to a better dude!

ultimate_krang wrote:veles: no really it wasnt hard!, maybe if i allowed it to build up in my mind it could of been

yeah, i think this is the key here! psyching yourself up and thinking too much about the person you'd like to approach isn't such a good thing to do, i've put that theory to the test in my time! there was a girl in my class that i liked and i've been working on the invasion plan for about 4 months before i finally approached her. and maaan, i really think 80% of my stress at that time was due to the sheer amount of time i spent thinking about her. So from now on, anytime i happen to bump into a girl i like, i ask myself the question "do i have the balls to do this?" YES - may god help me; NO - don't even look at her anymore coz you're making it worse for yourself. so far i've only had a lot of NO's for an answer =)

ultimate_krang wrote:
i really hope this can encourage people! im 25 and this is the first time ive ever done this my whole life! the thought of even doing it not so long ago would of probably made me sweat....! if i can beat this you guys can to!

I´m sure of that, honey. I was 26 when I decided that my isolation had to end and I let me falled in love. It wasn´t what we can called a relationship and it ended up but I learnt lot of things. When I was 28 I tried again and it lasted for 9 years. I liked to think in the possitive things of each relation. Before, I felt as if I wasn´t good enough to be with another person.
Te deseo mucha suerte, caballero!

I hope it works out. If it does you may have to start figuring out relationshp issues. Is that what you're looking for - a real live gf?

jesus christ i already have some issues after tonight... i'll write in more detail when my head isnt in such of a state. i also just found out i didnt get that job i applied for, i was pretty sure it was going to be a team of about 4 people getting the job but they have given it to one guy, whos work is really terrible. im not saying that out of spite its just the truth. i cant be to upset about the whole thing as the way they have treated everyone who applied for it is pretty much #######4.. we had to do alot of work in hardly any time and then had to wait a month to hear anything so i new i was dealing with some unreliable unprofessional people so i cannot be surprised about it. i was just hoping i would get the chance to experience another country... really bummed out about this actually. dont have a clue what i am going to do now.

Bummer. These dating and mating games are not easy at all. I remember one guy on the msn group had his gf dump him after she introduced him to her friends. It was really uncomfortable for him since he had avpd. She was not all that understanding. Then you have to figure out when to kiss her. Wait too long and she thinks you're a wimp or not that into her. Then you have to do the same thing with sex. Then you have to win over her friends and family. Usually. Sometimes it doesn't matter if the parents hate you. But it would make the relationship uncomfortable. Then you have to learn to deal with her shortcomings. Everyone has them. Hopefully they fall short of psychotic behavior! The girl I dated in the psych hospital was in the psycho zone, but she had a hot bod. Sometimes you have to compromise your principals to get a gf with a hot bod I'm afraid.

There's more I guess. But that's enough for now. I have NO idea how humans manage to mate. But take heart krang! 99% of the population manages to do it. You can too!

And the job situation - I know about the job woes. You are probably better off not working for jerks like that. I've been there. Wait a minute - I'm STILL there. My suspension should end this weekend. Then I could be back to the hell hole.

Parador wrote:Hopefully they fall short of psychotic behavior!

she doesnt.... yesterday i swear she only had 2 glasses of wine and then just turned into the most crazy person ive ever seen.. i mean it was crazy about me kind of crazy she got me to kiss her once then she jjust started going MORE! MORE! NOW!!! I JUST WANT TO KISS YOU. man im lucky i got home.. oh yea then she started saying she loves me. i'll see her again she is pretty fun but i dont think it can go on for to long...

She said she loves you?
Aaaaarrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh (That would have been my reaction)

Did that feel awkward at all?

well i can kind of see where she is coming from, if i really liked someone in a unhealthy way, which has happened....to many times. i could think that i loved them. so i can understand its just some result of unhealthy thoughts... its just awkward cus i aint gonna say it back am i anyway its cool, i would rather know she is crazy after 3 days then have to wait 4 years to find out like with my first gf.

Well, you could get some free sex out of this at least. Or nearly free. Does she require expensive wine? If not then just filler er up with the cheap stuff.