im in a sticky situation.

ok im in a bit of a pickle with one of my freinds and i am not sure what to do really...
basicly early in the year we were planning to do some teaching abroad and it never worked out as he wasnt really taking it seriously and i got the impression he wasnt really commited to doing it, i was sort of relying on him as i was to scared to do it by myself but it basicly fell through and i told myself i wouldnt make the same mistake and rely on someone else again, we had a falling out over it when i said i didnt want to send his application off and he should do it himself(he filled out the wrong form anyway and it got rejected.) we managed to patch it up afterwards.

then a few months ago i found out about some potential work in another country i might be able to get and told him about it, even though at this stage i was hoping he wouldnt even want to do it with me.. he said he was planning to go travelling with his freinds from his village next year and i should do that to(i said yeh maybe but i really meant no) but was interested in this thing to and asked if i could ask about it on his behalf, i said yea sure, but i didnt intend on asking for him as he should ask about it himself if he is really interested but if i told him that he would just get really offended. plus he always says things to be polite but doesnt intend to do them so i thought it would be fine to do the same with him.

anyway i got an e-mail a few days ago saying there is job going for the posistion we both speacialise in and he rang me up a day later and i told him about it. he asked if i had asked for him about it and i said no, but said i can forward the e-mail and then he starts saying that i dont want him to do it... i made it worse by saying i dont what the posistion is when the email was labelled BACKGROUND ARTIST so if i forward it to him im gonna look like i really dont want him to do it and im keeping it for myself. i like to be straight with people so i am feeling quite bad about this and i dont even know why i said that..

anyway the situation is even worse as i sent my portfolio on friday and i got a reply yesterday saying i have to do 1 test pic by monday as it is urgent. so even if i did send him the e-mail now its pretty much gonna be to late for him to do anything about it and its going to look like i did it on purpose. its gonna create pretty bad tension and hes gonna not trust me at all not sure what to tell him.

I think the only thing you can do is say sorry, and that you didn't think he would be interested.

Talk to him and say the truth. Are you gonna go abroad?

Bright eyes wrote:I think the only thing you can do is say sorry, and that you didn't think he would be interested.

That makes sense to me. he didn't seem to be interested in the other job earlier in the year.

is this the same guy who proved to be unreliable in one of your ealier posts?

um i think so. hes just put me in a hard position, i dont know anyone who asks other people to get jobs for them.. i even talked to my mum about it she said the same thing. it would be reasnable to say to anyone else that he wasnt interested so thats why i didnt tell him or ask for him or something.. but with him its to direct of a criticism. im just gonna say i forgot to forward him the email until after it was to late..

ultimate_krang wrote:i like to be straight with people so i am feeling quite bad about this and i dont even know why i said that..

Doesn't really sound to me like that's the case. I mean, if you don't want to do the thing with him then tell him so or don't tell him about the whole thing in the first place.

You are far from being straight with other people. But I guess that fits you quite well.

Sometimes you can't be straight with someone and be tactful at the same time. I would choose tact over striaght. I think that's what "normal" people do. I guess.

^ yea

but cheers for the insult cervantes, i guesse you have it in for me for whatever reason.

Cirvante wrote:

ultimate_krang wrote:i like to be straight with people so i am feeling quite bad about this and i dont even know why i said that..

Doesn't really sound to me like that's the case. I mean, if you don't want to do the thing with him then tell him so or don't tell him about the whole thing in the first place.

You are far from being straight with other people. But I guess that fits you quite well.

I suppouse you should be the only person in the world who is perfect!

What´s your favourite cake? Just curious!

^wouldnt waste your time on him zahara i think hes just on here to act like a prick to everyone.