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Tough Decision...

Postby Squigy » Wed Aug 12, 2009 5:01 am

So I'm new to these forums, and I'm hoping I can find some opinions to help me make this decision. I'm debating whether or not I should continue to attend school, or if I should just go out into the workforce and begin my life. I've suffered from a social disorder, which I'm guessing was avoidant personality disorder. However, I've somewhat made it past that, as I can now go out and about and tune people out, and not really care what they think of me anymore.

Anyways, on to the point. Before jumping to conclusions, here is the situation. I've been homeschooled for the past three years, and I have actually obtained a diploma through homeschooling. I was given three options by my mother as to what to do. It was either my senior year of high school, work, or college. I don't really see myself going to college, and working didn't seem like something I'd do. So of course, I chose my senior year, maybe spending time with friends. That was basically the whole idea behind it, to socialize, since I already have a diploma.

Now, after one day of high school, I began thinking of how it's so pointless. I don't have but a couple classes with friends, and I can't even socialize with them in the classes. I don't spend any time with them throughout the day. Because I have a diploma and won't really learn much due to almost all my classes being electives, I feel that this is just a meaningless year. So I've been pressing more towards just going out and working, as I feel it will give me more benefits as opposed to school, which I don't gain really anything from. So, what do you all think?
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Re: Tough Decision...

Postby ultimate_krang » Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:39 am

nobody can make your mind up for you but i would strongly recomend sticking with school or college or whatever.. how can you have made your mind up after only one day? you could get alot of out school. if there is classes that you are not with all of your freinds then you could always make new freinds? education is always usefull, i havent used my degree to gain a job yet but i have found out that i can also use it to get a job in another country, something ive always wanted to do. education gives you more options, why limit yourself? from my experience if i could stop working in the big wide world and go back in time and do school and uni again with a new and more open attitude i definately would. i think i really wasted my time and opurtunitys there. i didnt have a choice because i didnt know about this anxiety i had and i didnt know any different but theres alot of oppurtities for fun things in school. also another thing is you can make contacts and freinds in school that will stay with you your whole life.
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Re: Tough Decision...

Postby Squigy » Wed Aug 12, 2009 11:48 am

I definitely see where you're coming from. There are more oppurtunities with an education, yeah. However, with me already having a diploma, I just don't see the worth in spending a year in high school. All my classes have me doing things that I absolutely despise, and I'm truly unhappy where I am. I hate admitting that, but it's how I feel. I'm continually getting this sense of meaninglessness in going towards school, and it won't go away. I don't see myself going to college, at least not for a while. So far, going to work seems to have the most benefits, but I'm still getting a nervous feeling there as well. This feels like one of the toughest decisions I've had to make in my life (and probably is, my life hasn't been that great thus far).

I'm not sure how to quite explain it, but in a way, I actually get a feeling that I'd be more comfortable in a work environment. I'm not quite sure why. It just seems like I'm one of those people who qualifies for, "school isn't for everyone." I just don't feel like it's helping me in any way because I'm not gaining anything from it, especially when my family is going to end up moving after school is done anyways. So those friends that I would make wouldn't matter there.

This decision is making me feel terrible. =(
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Re: Tough Decision...

Postby ultimate_krang » Wed Aug 12, 2009 2:05 pm

maybe it isnt for you. the reasons you gave though that you could socialise more and are in classes without your freinds made me think you might be in a state of mind where you are going to miss out on things and not get the most out of it. maybe you should just give yourself a certain amount of time, like another month or something to make your mind up.
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Re: Tough Decision...

Postby Squigy » Wed Aug 12, 2009 2:19 pm

Yeah, that is somewhat how I feel. I don't see myself getting the most out of what I had originally set out to do. And I have given some thought to more time. However, I just feel that more time spent there may make the feeling worse, and I'm somewhat afraid of that. In a way, it seems that my mind is already set on going to work, but my heart is unsure, or maybe the other way around. Not sure. All I can say is this feels like a bigger jump into life, something I haven't experience in such a long time. Granted, for my age, that doesn't seem like something I should say, but most of my friends and family began setting out in the real world well before me. I'm going on 18, and I feel that my life is meaningless right now. I'm just after whatever advice I can get. Whether it be what I wish to hear, or what I don't wish to hear, it'll be useful.
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