I'm completely cured

Read through some of the later comments. Seems like Parador just turned it all into some crazy zombie-theories-conversation. Very funny though *lol*.

I recognize a lot of what you're all saying about how you have this periods of your lives when you manage to be positive and enjoy life and even be social (!), but then you just slip back into your old depressing habits/thoughts. It's really hard to stay positive about things. One negative thought can ruin it all.

I think I'll just keep on watching Fightclub and see if I'll get brainwashed enough by its underlaying non-self-destructive message to find peace. Or I'll just get an un-avoidant cool alter that takes over my life. And tries to blow up the whole society.

orange wrote:Read through some of the later comments. Seems like Parador just turned it all into some crazy zombie-theories-conversation. Very funny though *lol*.
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Hey - it's not nice to call a guy who was locked up in a psych hospital for 2 years carzy! Or his theories. I've got theories about hookers too. Zombie hookers - ugh. That's even scarier than the zombie baby from Dawn of the Dead. Imagine calling a girl off craigslist and getting there to find she's a crazed flesh eater. Nasty!

I never called YOU crazy. But I'm sorry if I upset you. Never meant to do that.

You don't have zombies over there in Sweden?

It's THE zombieland!

Well, MargaretNoelle hasn't posted in almost a year, so maybe she is cured. And maybe if I read and re-read and keep re-reading her posts, I will figure out how to achieve a cure, too. It seems she did not consider herself unattractive, so maybe that made the mental leap a little easier. If you change your behavior and other people accept the changed behavior, I imagine it's easier to maintain the change. If you try to act like popular people act, and people still don't want to accept you, then it's hard to keep forcing yourself to act like everybody's equal and we're all just here to enjoy life. Until I can figure out how to make it work for me, I will remain a skeptic.

Hi everyone! I'm new here, but felt compelled to comment on this thread.

Until about 3 hours ago, I had never heard of AvPD. Once I read about the symptoms in a wikipedia page, I realized I've suffered from this almost all of my life, with my symptoms worsening over the last few years. I won't bore you with the details, but suffice to say, it has taken a huge toll.

At my age (42), I don't expect to ever become an extrovert, nor do I expect to be cured. But the closest I ever came to having an epiphany was my realization that all human beings want essentially the same things: respect, affection, achievement, financial stability, etc. I can't say that all of my 'issues' vanished upon realizing that, but thinking about it has prevented them from getting worse.

It's possible that managing AvPD is like managing alcoholism, or any other illness with physical and emotional underpinnings. It will never go away, but you can manage it by being vigilant about what you take into your mind and body. I wish I had an easier answer, but all of the books, documentaries, YouTube clips, magazine articles and advice I've encountered boils down to that.

As for MargaretNoelle, it's possible that she got better merely because she tried to get better. When I wallow in misery, I remind myself that I must be as careful with my thoughts as a drug addict must be steering clear of drug dealers. I also remember that there are billions of people who've lived happier lives under far worse conditions.

Whether you agree or not, I wish you all the best of luck.

Skog wrote:Well, MargaretNoelle hasn't posted in almost a year, so maybe she is cured. And maybe if I read and re-read and keep re-reading her posts, I will figure out how to achieve a cure, too. It seems she did not consider herself unattractive, so maybe that made the mental leap a little easier..

She's not unattractive. She showed me her facebook page at one point. She's a young hottie. That helps with the 'cure.' I've seen guys get "cured" when they had women giving them attention too.

I accidently came across this thread again using google and realized it was posted 4 years ago! I just wanted to say that I completely agree with the OP now, you are exactly right. Hope you are still doing great. I finally get what you were trying to say.

Nobody gets cured of apersonality disorder because it is not an illness (In spite I wish it was).
A personality disorder is a product of many factors who played their role along our lifes, from childhood to early adulthood.
A personality disorder is part of what we are. We can learn to live with it. In the way we learn to accept our Avie part we will learn to get out of it and feel better. In the way we face to these factors which contributed our maladaptative patterns of thought and living, we will beat.

At this point, is it possible to get better? Yes, it is.
Is it possible for all to be better? No, it isn´t. It depends on many points. Depend on the grade you are affected by your personality disorder and the tools you can use to fight the disorder.
Example; I´m better, why? Because I´m old and I learnt through many falls. Because I could go to therapy, because I found a work in which I can be another person the most part of the time, because I haven´t got a boss who can tell you "go away, you terrible ass@", because I´m a woman and a woman still can be viewed as interesting if she is not outgoing or if she shows shiness.

So, it´s not easy for all. Although I would like it.