AvPD and empathy.

occidental_death wrote:

CSRevenant wrote:For example, ill be eating lunch in the college cafeteria, and some person will come sit at my table. It got to the point where i wished that person would die for being such a moron. Or someone will say something stupid, and ill think to myself, "he needs a good kick in the teeth".

Do these judgements wear off, or are they considered? If, say, five minutes after the incident you were able to decide the fate of the "perpetrator", would you still prescribe a death/kicking?

I know this question wasn't directed at me but I feel the exact same way sometimes so I'll answer it. If I'm sitting on the bus and want to be left alone for example and someone sits next to me I will just think something extreme along the lines of "Just ###$ off and die, why wouldn't you sit somewhere else?" (unless it is a attractive girl ). Or if someone says something stupid or stutters my instant reaction (in my mind) is "LOL what a retard".

I have the tendency to make harsh judgments of people very quickly, and things like their race, weight, appearance (yep, I discriminate) get taken into consideration and I will get very harsh thoughts like 'fvcking n1gger' or 'fvcking fat cvnt' just appear in my head instantly and in turn will make judgments. Yet if it is an attractive girl or someone I care for who does this I won't make these judgments at all.

Anyway to answer your question, as soon as the person leaves the scene (eg. the person on the bus next to me leaves, or 5 mins after the person was stuttering), if I were to re-judge them it would probably be a lot more sympathetic; 'oh they're gone now, it wasn't so bad, maybe I was just overreacting'.

Sometimes it wears off in a hour or so, maybe a few days if they really pissed me off.

But, I'm generally a forgiving person, and i cant stay mad at loved ones. I don't hold grudges very long, excluding my sister. I still hate her. I usually just forgive and forget.

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Girl Disappearing wrote:I'm pretty sure I lack empathy, for humans that is. I have empathy for animals. I feel so much more for them then I ever have for humans. I don't know why.

HUMANS=ANIMALS

I feel more empathy than sympathy. I have few friendship relations and when I have one I´m really sympathetic. I prefer in this way. I´m quite selective. In relation to empathy is easier for me, mainly with people that have something in common with me.

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Girl Disappearing wrote:I'm pretty sure I lack empathy, for humans that is. I have empathy for animals. I feel so much more for them then I ever have for humans. I don't know why.

same here...

My grandpa died and i didn't think twice about it. My dog died and i cried for weeks. I saw my grandpa fairly often too so i had a pretty good relationship with him. Having him die didn't invoke any feelings different from usual and i couldn't understand why everyone else felt that sad.

Here's an 'empathy quotient' test I found, don't know about how accurate it is:
http://www.glennrowe.net/BaronCohen/Emp ... tient.aspx

Your score: 16
0 - 32 = low (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score about 20)
33 - 52 = average (most women score about 47 and most men score about 42)
53 - 63 is above average
64 - 80 is very high
80 is maximum

aww $#%^ LoL

Asuka wrote:

Hatake wrote:My grandpa died and i didn't think twice about it. My dog died and i cried for weeks. I saw my grandpa fairly often too so i had a pretty good relationship with him. Having him die didn't invoke any feelings different from usual and i couldn't understand why everyone else felt that sad.

Perhaps you felt more empathy for your dog rather than your grandpa because,being avoidant,it was easier for you to make an emotional conncetion to that dog.

Yup, my mom even yelled at me because i didn't look sad when she told me he was dead.

I got 13 on that last test which is kinda low. I wonder if a normal person would actually get 33-52.