why do i not feel good enough?

this is obvious that this is how i feel most the time, in most situations, that everyone else is better than me or better at something than me or looks better or any irrational bullshi te that my brain can think of really, i just had a really good 2 weeks and now for absaloutely no reason im feeling like $#%^ and struggling with basic interaction with people again...

Firstly, why did you enjoy those two weeks? - What did you do during them?; what went 'right'? Try to focus on these positives before considering the negatives of your current 'lull' in mood.

ultimate_krang wrote:this is obvious that this is how i feel most the time, in most situations, that everyone else is better than me or better at something than me or looks better or any irrational bullshi te that my brain can think of really, i just had a really good 2 weeks and now for absaloutely no reason im feeling like $#%^ and struggling with basic interaction with people again...

Im guessing a bunch of people told you that you weren't good enough when you were growing up. Thats how it was for me at least. Its brutal, especially if its coming from your own parents. After awhile you start to believe it.

I really dont think its that much different than a woman who is verbally abused by her husband on a daily basis. One of two things happen, she either says enough and leaves, or she stays and continues to feel worthless.

This is just my opinion but I think AVP is a habit just like any other habit. It becomes ingrained in our personality. The only way to defeat it is to find people that accept you, stay away from people that don't, and slowly reprogram yourself so you stop feeling so bad. Overtime you can overcome it. Thats what Im trying to do right now.

Has something new happened to you after these two weeks? What has changed? these are rhetorical questions. Try to ask them yourself. Sometimes there are steps backward but focuss on the steps forward. If you were able to do it well in the past, why are you gonna be uncapable to do it well in the future. Don´t be so hard with yourself.

Agree with Superman 23, in relation to tha habit. And habits can be changed. It´s hard but possible. Don´t have any doubt.

ultimate_krang wrote:this is obvious that this is how i feel most the time, in most situations, that everyone else is better than me or better at something than me or looks better or any irrational bullshi te that my brain can think of really, i just had a really good 2 weeks and now for absaloutely no reason im feeling like $#%^ and struggling with basic interaction with people again...

I know it can be difficult. Especially when you know you're being irrational.
That doesn't change the fact it can be hard, and you're feelings still hurt even when you know there is no good reason for it. That can make it worse in fact.

I find my depression comes and goes in cycles. I'll feel good for a few weeks, then feel sad for a few weeks.
Sometimes I won't feel anything at all inbetween. I also find the length and severity vary a lot.

I know when I'm feeling sad as I stop singing along to the music I play in my car.
Hang in there mate. It will get better.

Preaching to the choir scro

Ult! I forgot to tell you that it´s pretty usual to feel bad moments. I suppose everyone here can tell you the same, and in this moments you feel like a $#%^, you think you never gonna be able to stand up again but you can. I know how positive can you be.

I look at myself and I hate what i look like and feel like. I love who i am dont get me wrong but i hate what i've become. I dont think i'm good enough for anyone. So even if a guy is interested in me I have already decided i'm not good enough for him, which then the universe goes *ding* your wish is my command and i never see him again lol I hate the way my head make me feel. I know its all my ego but lately it seems to have more control over me than normal.

^ if you look like that then you shoudlnt be feeling that way!

ultimate_krang wrote:^ if you look like that then you shoudlnt be feeling that way!

haha funny