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Postby LifeSong » Fri Apr 17, 2009 7:38 am

I never felt more 'alone' than when I was with someone and everything had gone out of the relationship but yet we hung on.

I think there is no lonelier feeling than to be alone while with someone in a dead relationship.

I never feel that lonely when I am just by myself.
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Postby Butterfly Faerie » Fri Apr 17, 2009 1:48 pm

Incorrigible wrote:What's so bad about being single? Sometimes being in a relationship really sucks. The grass isn't always greener...


it is for me ;)


But i get your point.
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Postby twistermind » Fri Apr 17, 2009 2:09 pm

ultimate_krang wrote:not necessarily and avoident thing bujt arrghhh go away!!


I undersand you, but I never hate couples, I only desired to have a mate soul, someone to share my life.
Give you time! you´re very young! Don´t think very much about it. These things usually happen when you less expect!
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Postby ultimate_krang » Fri Apr 17, 2009 3:51 pm

yep, i like this girl thats why im in bitter mode! i saw a couple on the beach yesterday and they stopped infront of my and just took up the whole path to snog. get a room or at least wait until i have passed!!
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Postby ultimate_krang » Fri Apr 17, 2009 3:53 pm

LifeSong wrote:I never felt more 'alone' than when I was with someone and everything had gone out of the relationship but yet we hung on.

I think there is no lonelier feeling than to be alone while with someone in a dead relationship.

I never feel that lonely when I am just by myself.


i had something similar but i didnt really feel alone.. just felt like freinds. still thats a lesson i learned im never going to do that again, would much rather be single than with someone i dont like anymore.[/i]
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Postby ultimate_krang » Fri Apr 17, 2009 3:54 pm

Ravine wrote:
Odditys wrote:I don't know about you but I'll probably be single my entire life :(


Hey friend,

You can get whatever you thought about it. But one min. It depends on your desire, intentions and attitude. So decide what to do and how to do it.

You must change your thinking.


sage advice and....dont be shy to, thats what im trying!
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Postby ultimate_krang » Fri Apr 17, 2009 3:58 pm

Lost Girl wrote:Yeah I used to be like this,bitter and jealous.Don't get me wrong,if you have the AvPD curse I can't blame you.But I think alot of avoidants want to be normal for the sake of being normal,because the media makes us feel pathetic for not living up to an ideal.
Meh,I would like to get married but have no desire for a relationship right now.I've realised that I just wanted one for the sake of it and that makes it harder as you're stressing yourself over it and trying to force it to happend and become despondent when you don't get fast results,rather than letting things occur organiscally. People can sense tension and neediness also and it's a major turn off for most,it's like sub consciouss reverse psychology.

yea that is spot on.. being desperate is not a good look..but if you ask yourself would you find someone else who is acting needy or desperrate attractive and the answer(well it should be!) is no! i try to tell myself that so im in a better mood but it doesnt always work :x
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Postby lantsei » Wed Apr 22, 2009 7:14 pm

Reiji Moritsugu wrote:I used to think like that...or even worse...

Until 16 months ago, when I met my current girlfriend...
how is it that I managed to get one? must be some kind
of magic, who knows. The thing is that if I could, then
certainly everyone else can do the same...I´m 120%
sure of it.


Change 16 months to 10 days and that's my story :)
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Postby ultimate_krang » Wed Apr 22, 2009 10:52 pm

:evil: ................ haha no i am really happy for you guys!
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Postby Dazed » Thu Apr 23, 2009 4:16 am

lantsei wrote:
Reiji Moritsugu wrote:I used to think like that...or even worse...

Until 16 months ago, when I met my current girlfriend...
how is it that I managed to get one? must be some kind
of magic, who knows. The thing is that if I could, then
certainly everyone else can do the same...I´m 120%
sure of it.


Change 16 months to 10 days and that's my story :)


wow that's great. Happy to hear you guys have been successful :)
don't think I'll ever have a story of that sort to tell though lol.
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