i hate couples!

I especially hate Valentine's day, probably because I have been alone for every one. Couples just remind me of how big of a pathetic loser I am.

I just dislike when people start being all lovey dovey in public, seeing public affection is just wierd to me, I'll usually just remind one of them that their relationship is going to end eventually .

-Eric_lee

Sometimes I can't stand seeing couples together,not because I'm jealous, I just view them as weak for depending on another person. Other times I am jealous, other times I view all affection as weak, other times I'm desperate and crave it, sometimes I don't care either way.

I often wonder if I was ever in a relationship what would be the rules. Because sometimes I'm of the view, if I'm with someone we can both still ###$ who we want, to a view that we must never cheat on one another.

So you see I desire love at times, other times I despise it.

I hate the loneliness, but I don't want to be suffocated, so I withdraw from others which hurts at times, other times I don't care.

kroll: do you ever try to uncover why you have such feelings? maybe its just a defense of yours to justify that you are not with anyone that you think they are weak and need to depend on somebody.. i dont think thats a weakness, people can still be dependent and be in a couple, support and love from another person can be a good thing. obviously relying on them for everything is not but alot of people are in healthy relationships..
anyway, im just trying to say, you should maybe try to find out why you think this way cus i dont think its helpfull to think of couples like that, if you despise it or even think your going to be weak if you want to be with somebody then you will not like the idea of it happening to you and thus you will try your best to make sure it doesnt happen even if you dont realise it(i think)

I only think that way sometimes, when I'm interested in focusing my energies towards myself.Right now I'm really jealous of couples and it really hurts, I can't have a girlfriend even if I wanted one anyway, I don't feel like I'm perfect enough right now.

I wish I felt like I did a few months ago.When I didn't feel any of this emotional crap, life was so much less complicated.

but who expects their partners to be perfect anyway? would you expect that of someone? if not then why would someone expect that of you?

ultimate_krang wrote:but who expects their partners to be perfect anyway? would you expect that of someone? if not then why would someone expect that of you?

No I mean at the moment I'm out of work, I have barely any money, I need better clothes (some are I okay I guess), I need to build myself up physically, I need a six-pack ( I'm close but not quite), and I'm emotionally all over the place. I'm hardly relationship material and I wouldn't even bother trying to look for someone yet.

But do I want the perfect partner? Well sometimes I feel that way, but I'd have to be perfect also and that's impossible in this world sadly.

well, obviously it would be better to feel a bit better about yourself. but you dont need to be perfect.. not having a six pack does not make you unworthy of being in a relationship with somebody. you dont really need me to tell you that the way you are thinking is pretty unhelpful do you?

I would like to point out that being sad, envious or whatever because of loneliness isn't quite the same as being desperate. What I guess I mean is, those who desire affection may not be—if only out of sheer self-analysis and control—as needy and obsessive as you'd expect a lonely person to be as a lover.

That's what I'm hoping I'd be like, anyway. I don't truly know how I'd act in the situation until I've been there. Let's just say I hear every complaint any woman has had about a guy and I mentally note it.

Funny how one can learn so much from the romantic failures of others and never love anyone himself.

I don't bear any ill will toward couples. I get jealous yeah... but those bad feelings are reflected elsewhere. Because it's not them, you know?

(Provided I continue posting here I may properly introduce myself in the future.)

ultimate_krang wrote:well, obviously it would be better to feel a bit better about yourself. but you dont need to be perfect.. not having a six pack does not make you unworthy of being in a relationship with somebody. you dont really need me to tell you that the way you are thinking is pretty unhelpful do you?

CODY DEANER! Had to double take on that sig for a second... nice to see another wrestling fan on the board.

On topic... I have mixed reaction to certain couples... if I see two people together who I don't find attractive I think of the Mad TV segment "Lowered Expectations" and figure I'm better off alone. When I see two attractive people together I'm somewhat envious... absolutely pissed off if the girl is attractive and the guy is a scrub. Sounds a bit self-centered but I'm being honest.