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Postby dbx » Fri Mar 06, 2009 10:16 pm

define "failure". If you take society's perspective, then yes, one could say I'm a failure, more like loser. However if you look things from my perspective, then definitely not. How many people will be able to endure complete isolation from the outside world for 9 years, combined with clinical depression and social phobia that has never been treated and kind of went away on itself? Not many, I'd guess. Most will kill themselves when the 4th or 5th year comes, some maybe a bit sooner or later, but I live like that for 9 years and I plan to do so for even longer. It's kind of an experiment for me. See how long I can go fully isolated and with extremely limited human contact without completely going insane (which I doubt I'll go but one never knows). I know for sure that I won't pass on my genes so evolution loses in not getting my strengths.
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Postby m1norityofone984 » Sat Mar 07, 2009 1:46 am

this post was a failure delete plz
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Postby sublyp » Sat Mar 07, 2009 2:04 am

dbx wrote:define "failure". If you take society's perspective, then yes, one could say I'm a failure, more like loser. However if you look things from my perspective, then definitely not. How many people will be able to endure complete isolation from the outside world for 9 years, combined with clinical depression and social phobia that has never been treated and kind of went away on itself? Not many, I'd guess. Most will kill themselves when the 4th or 5th year comes, some maybe a bit sooner or later, but I live like that for 9 years and I plan to do so for even longer. It's kind of an experiment for me. See how long I can go fully isolated and with extremely limited human contact without completely going insane (which I doubt I'll go but one never knows). I know for sure that I won't pass on my genes so evolution loses in not getting my strengths.


That's what a homeless man says...
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Postby Butterfly Faerie » Sat Mar 07, 2009 2:05 am

I've had plenty of times where I have felt like a failure.
Still go through those times actually.
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Postby dbx » Sat Mar 07, 2009 2:31 am

sublyp wrote:
dbx wrote:define "failure". If you take society's perspective, then yes, one could say I'm a failure, more like loser. However if you look things from my perspective, then definitely not. How many people will be able to endure complete isolation from the outside world for 9 years, combined with clinical depression and social phobia that has never been treated and kind of went away on itself? Not many, I'd guess. Most will kill themselves when the 4th or 5th year comes, some maybe a bit sooner or later, but I live like that for 9 years and I plan to do so for even longer. It's kind of an experiment for me. See how long I can go fully isolated and with extremely limited human contact without completely going insane (which I doubt I'll go but one never knows). I know for sure that I won't pass on my genes so evolution loses in not getting my strengths.


That's what a homeless man says...


except a homeless have much more interaction with others than I do. You don't really know the effects of full isolation for years unless you have felt them yourself. Granted, being a homeless is absolutely not easy, it may be even much more tougher, but these people, just like me and specific others are the ones who have great strengths.
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Postby Girl Disappearing » Sat Mar 07, 2009 8:36 pm

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Postby It's All in Your Mind » Sat Mar 07, 2009 10:25 pm

I'm two years older than you, and I'm in the same situation. :oops:
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Postby Butterfly Faerie » Sun Mar 08, 2009 12:33 am

Girl Disappearing wrote:I don't consider myself a failure...I know I am a failure. I'm 26 years old, no job, living with my parents. I don't even have my drivers license. I don't know how to do anything. I don't leave this house. I am a failure. I'd like to change but it's just so hard.


I'm 28 I have no job, and no driver's license.

I do have a home, and I no longer live with my parents...

I'm in the process however of getting my drivers permit again.


Do you deal with agoraphobia ?
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Postby Vayne » Sun Mar 08, 2009 1:45 am

Yes. I'm a highly flawed human being. And I know I've ###$ up my life.
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Postby Parador » Sun Mar 08, 2009 1:51 am

That's what a homeless man says...


Ha!! I've never been homeless anyway. If you look around enough you can always find some poor slob who is worse off that you. Not exactly a happy though. At least we all have access to computers.
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