Moving

by **bla84** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 10:22 pm

What have any avpds who moved far away from their home find, did it improve their situation? I think a fresh start could really help, like a move to another state or something like that.

Do you not want to run into people you know for a specific reason because I have this too. I don't want them to know whats happenned like they've progressed in life and I haven't.

I haven't seen most of my family in years I just refuse to see or talk to them, I've been so bad for so long like after uni I've done nothing. I can't confront them, the first thing everybody always asks is what are you doing with yourself I cant take it.

The last family member I saw was my great uncle at a doctor's office in 2006. I remember all conversation I have so I remember specifically sweating up when he asked me what I was studying and I told him the uni and it's not a good one and then he goes "oh I guess that is the best place to study that" because he was expecting me to say an accomplished uni. I REMEMBER THAT, THAT FFS!

Anyway he died recently and I didn't attend his funeral, it was my most shameful moment yet. I hardly ever saw him but after that any dignity I had left is completely gone.

Only kidding it all went long long ago

by **Girl Disappearing** » Thu Jan 15, 2009 7:12 pm

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by **coldhands** » Thu Jan 15, 2009 7:17 pm

Yep moving helped me alot.

I think if you feel it's time to move you should do it.

by **Parador** » Fri Jan 16, 2009 1:05 am

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Do you not want to run into people you know for a specific reason because I have this too. I don't want them to know whats happenned like they've progressed in life and I haven't.

Yes! That's exactly why I don't want to run into people. I ran into this girl I went to high school with about a year and a half ago at a store. She stopped to talk to me. She told me about how she's getting married and then asked what I've been up to. I was nervous to start with and in my mind I knew that question was coming. I remember trying to think of something before she even asked. Of course I couldn't think of a thing to say and gave her my usual answer "oh, nothing much." Then she asked where I work. Part of me wanted to say: "None of your business, bitch!" and walk away. haha. But I said: "Uhh, no where right now." And that was that.

I always hated that. I used to tell people I had a 3rd shift job even though I wasn't working. I figured they would never know I was lying. I went a lot more than 2 years without work. I figured people would just think I was a lazy freeloader.

by **CriminallyVulgar** » Fri Jan 16, 2009 2:28 pm

This is the same reason I hate my little town. Everybody knows EVERYBODY. I can't be in the presence of somebody that I know without feeling ashamed of myself. As you guys have already said it's that question about your life. I want to die every time I have to tell somebody I still live with my parents and I haven't worked since I dropped out of college 2 and a half years ago.

by **bla84** » Sat Jan 17, 2009 2:32 am

Girl Disappearing wrote:
Do you not want to run into people you know for a specific reason because I have this too. I don't want them to know whats happenned like they've progressed in life and I haven't.

Yes! That's exactly why I don't want to run into people. I ran into this girl I went to high school with about a year and a half ago at a store. She stopped to talk to me. She told me about how she's getting married and then asked what I've been up to. I was nervous to start with and in my mind I knew that question was coming. I remember trying to think of something before she even asked. Of course I couldn't think of a thing to say and gave her my usual answer "oh, nothing much." Then she asked where I work. Part of me wanted to say: "None of your business, bitch!" and walk away. haha. But I said: "Uhh, no where right now." And that was that. Thing is, I ran into her about 2 years before that and I also told her I wasn't working anywhere at the time. It's humiliating.

haven't seen most of my family in years I just refuse to see or talk to them, I've been so bad for so long like after uni I've done nothing. I can't confront them, the first thing everybody always asks is what are you doing with yourself I cant take it.

Same here. I have not gone to family occasions in years. I don't want to be seen by them and have them ask me questions about what I'm up to, only to respond with "nothing". I still live with my parents (embarrassing!!) and the odd time a family member comes and visits I will go in my room and shut the door. I won't even go out and say hi to them.

Anyway he died recently and I didn't attend his funeral, it was my most shameful moment yet. I hardly ever saw him but after that any dignity I had left is completely gone.

Funerals are the only time I see my family. It's hard for me to even attend them but I haven't missed one yet. I just attend the funeral part and go home right after, instead of going to the little get together afterwards.

I think my family really resents me because I never attend any of their get togethers.

CriminallyVulgar wrote:This is the same reason I hate my little town. Everybody knows EVERYBODY. I can't be in the presence of somebody that I know without feeling ashamed of myself. As you guys have already said it's that question about your life. I want to die every time I have to tell somebody I still live with my parents and I haven't worked since I dropped out of college 2 and a half years ago.

Even though it sucks to read it, I'm at least comforted by people in a similar way and feel a teeny weeny bit better now. Hopefully things will change for us guys.

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