What triggers intense emotional pain for you?

A lot of the times, it's usually being told what other people has done or is doing or will do in the future and what I haven't done. This guy answered the guy's question on what he's doing in the weekends and he answered, "I'm having sex and going out to the party!" When he and I had a chance to talk to each other he asked, "you're probably not the type of guy who goes out partying right?" as if he hasn't made it clear before that he loves the girls there.

If that wasn't bad, it's definitely reading about some accomplishments of my friends and how they have graduated school and are going onto get a Bachelor or PHD's or what have you or reading about how they're already married and have a kid!. I look at myself and think like Charlie Brown, "the life is passing me by." Evidently, I'm not doing anything about it; just looking at those clouds.

The main thing that triggers pain for me is witnessing the happiness of others around me and how great their lives are in comparison to mine.

Recently though, I saw a picture of myself that a friend had (much to my dismay) put on Myspace. Seeing how hideous I looked triggered emotional pain for me and really gave my self confidence a beating.

Jessica's Hope wrote:

Parador wrote:Then after college I got the alumni anouncements that tell how people are moving up in the world, getting PhDs, having kids. And there I was, an unemployed virgin.

Just going to a movie and seeing a couple. Happy bleeping people make me puke!

I feel sad when i see people in my age range who seem to have their life together. All of my friends are in relationships and I am the only one who has never had a boyfriend. Its painful to see life pass you by.

But, i never want to be someone who is bitter and jealous of other peoples happiness. I just dont want to be that person. Granted, i will admit that i am envious at times. But i only want what they have, i dont want them to be sad and alone like me.

I feel the same way. I don't really hate or resent them for being happier & more successful than me. I kind of dislike myself for being incapable(so i think) of obtaining the same happiness.

Well, if living's such hell, here's to your dying days.
You won't have to be afraid.
And the heroes you met were just fiction,
yeah, with higher expectations.
And your friends grew up faster than you got successful,
told you to keep it up. Good comes to those who work.
And the stories they told you were true, babe.
Your mom really went crazy.
But that doesn't have to be you, no.

And I miss Tara and Melissa, Allen and John.
And you'll never have friends like you did when you were young.
But our bodies were pulled away and swept out to the sea
and I'd call and say hi if I thought you'd remember me.

A real life Shinji wrote:

sublyp wrote:Well, if living's such hell, here's to your dying days.
You won't have to be afraid.
And the heroes you met were just fiction,
yeah, with higher expectations.
And your friends grew up faster than you got successful,
told you to keep it up. Good comes to those who work.
And the stories they told you were true, babe.
Your mom really went crazy.
But that doesn't have to be you, no.

And I miss Tara and Melissa, Allen and John.
And you'll never have friends like you did when you were young.
But our bodies were pulled away and swept out to the sea
and I'd call and say hi if I thought you'd remember me.

Thats nice and sad.Did you write it yourself?

oops, no it's a song.
Greetings In Braille by The Elected

It reminded me of this thread.

Watching sad love stories. They usually make me cry, but the weird thing is, I like to cry. It makes me sad because I'm watching something I know I'll never have or be able to maintain.

Yukinari wrote:Watching sad love stories. They usually make me cry, but the weird thing is, I like to cry. It makes me sad because I'm watching something I know I'll never have or be able to maintain.

Exactly the same for me too. Watching normal people go out and have a good time really gets to me because i would love to do that but i can't.