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Your "ego"

Postby Peptron » Sun Dec 07, 2008 11:20 pm

You can't imagine how long I searched for an appropriate name for this thread.

This is another of my comparing schizoid VS avoidant thread, and this time it's about the ego, or the sense of self.

Avoidants seem to have a very strong sense of self, or ego, and they tend to link just about everything about themselves to their ego, and not to any other source.
For example: a lot of avoidants will say that maybe they are not even avoidant, maybe they are simply losers at the core. As if all the bad sides of avoidant PD, like anxiety, etc, was "THEM". They do not seem to ever think things like "This situation will be problematic because my brain is too prone to generating high anxiety levels.", they will rather think something like "I will suck in that situation, because, well because I suck."; as if they do not make any distinction between their abnormal reactions and themselves. In other words: if they are in a situation where their body does not cooperate, they will accuse themselves rather than their body. They see themselves and their body as one entity, and if their body fails, it's somehow their fault.

Schizoids do not seem to have a sense of self at all. Having no self is actually one of the odd side-effects of schizoid personality disorder. Even if schizoids tend to suck just as much at life as avoidants (and often more because they have no drive for amelioration), and usually even in the exact same spheres of life, they will very rarely think "I suck". They will never accuse their ego of such things, because it's like they do not even have one. For example, a schizoid will often say that their lack of self-motivation is due to the domamine pathways in their brain not functioning propertly, they will never say that it is because that "They suck" as a person. They see themselves and their body as being rather unrelated, and can even feel like their body is rather dry and corpse-like, as if their body really had nothing to do with their ego. It's as if schizoids do not even exist in their own internal world, so any ideas like "I suck" become somewhat irrelevant.
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Postby Peptron » Sun Dec 07, 2008 11:23 pm

I forgot to explain the point of my thread:

What I am trying to understand from that is why you have two people that fail at life the exact same way, but you have one that keeps telling himself that he is a total failure, and another to whom the idea of seeing himself as a failure seems like a completely irrelevant idea.
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