Crying - yes or no?

I think it's quite clear that avoidants are a sad bunch in general, but I was curious if any of this inner misery translates to actual tears. Do any of you cry yourself to sleep often? Were you a crybaby when growing up? Or have you decided that nothing is worth your tears, despite the anguish you may still have?

And for those who do cry often, do you feel any relief at all after you're done, at least temporarily?

Men don't cry. Seriously I've tried it recently and I only got a little bit tearful. Last time I actually did cry was probably at a funeral a few years ago, and even that was mostly sniffling.

Asuka wrote:Alcohol can make me emotional. In fact thats one of the main things I "enjoy" about alcohol;I can actually feel emotions properly.

You sound like someone I know. This person can have major emotional breakdowns once in a while from alcohol, but normally suppresses most emotions. I'm not sure if this is subconscious or not.

Asuka wrote:For me its like a build up then it just takes a trigger in the right(wrong) circumstances and......I explode.

Sounds like my friend alright. Could you elaborate on the exploding bit, or would you rather not.

I can't cry, literally. Even when I'm feeling my worst all I can do is make a few pathetic sobs and that's it...

There was a time when I could, and in fact I did it quite often, but over the past few years I haven't cried properly at all.

I haven't really cried since I was a small child. Almost all the time, I would end up smiling or even laughing when I should probably have been crying, such as when I was injured. I felt terrible about it, but I had to concentrate extremely hard to keep myself from smiling from ear to ear during my grandmother's funeral just a few years back. Though I hardly saw her during the last number of years leading up to her death, I still cared about her. That happens a lot to me, though. I think there's a name for it, but I don't remember what it is. I have a tendency to want to laugh during many occasions when there isn't anything to laugh about, such as serious talks with my parents or, as I already said, at a funeral. I do it so often that my parents often think I'm lying to them about things because I can't keep a straight face.

Enough of that rambling, though. The most I can muster these days is a light and very brief sob. Other times, I get nothing more than teary-eyed. It's always a rarity, though, and I can't say that I feel much in the way of relief.

Yeah, it's like a bulimic throwing up. Feels good.

I'm starting to think that, with small exception, the vast majority of men are incapable of manifesting genuine sadness. They can manifest anger very well, and even biting, hateful sarcasm. But actual sadness is a rarity among men.

It's a shame. The one drawback of being full of testosterone and semen...

On another note, Asuka, how long are you planning on having that garish Chiyo avatar? Talk about an eyesore...

Asuka wrote:

Snowbunny wrote:I'm starting to think that, with small exception, the vast majority of men are incapable of manifesting genuine sadness. They can manifest anger very well, and even biting, hateful sarcasm. But actual sadness is a rarity among men.

It's a shame. The one drawback of being full of testosterone and semen...

On another note, Asuka, how long are you planning on having that garish Chiyo avatar? Talk about an eyesore...

The winner of most stupid, sexist and unprovoked ad-hominem ridden post goes to the above.

Care to elaborate?

Snowbunny wrote:I'm starting to think that, with small exception, the vast majority of men are incapable of manifesting genuine sadness. They can manifest anger very well, and even biting, hateful sarcasm. But actual sadness is a rarity among men.

Are you equating the shedding of tears to experiencing and/or exhibiting sadness?

I also feel a bit offended by this remark.

Asuka wrote:

Snowbunny wrote:

Asuka wrote:The winner of most stupid, sexist and unprovoked ad-hominem ridden post goes to the above.

Care to elaborate?

I should'nt have to its self evident. I would'nt take your mad mood out on me, wrong person I can assure you.

You seem to be in a particularly bad mood tonight, at least judging by the quality of your spelling...