The pros(if any) and cons of Avoidance.

I agree with both the solitary and not wanting cyclical relationships thing. In for a dime, in for a dollar, as they say. I guess the cautiousness that comes with it is also sort of a pro (and con...) as the phrase goes, "Untutored courage is useless in the face of well educated bullets". A con, at least for me, is that I'll admit I can be a bit of a jerk if someone impedes upon my personal space, privacy, or anything of that sort >.>. And that is all I can think up for now. /writersblock

To be honest, I wouldn't like to loose my avoidance completely. I just would like to have more control over it. It's okay for me to have higher standards than most people and I need to spend time alone. But I want to be able to make exceptions for people I really like.
And it would be good if i could be more open about being avoidant (which sounds kind of paradoxical). I do stupid things to escape others instead of simply telling them I want to be left alone.

darklight wrote:I do stupid things to escape others instead of simply telling them I want to be left alone.

Thats exactly what i've been doing .

The only good thing about being avoidant is that you have alot of time for yourself and can really focus on a hobby if you want. Thats all i can think of right now.

I only know my life, and my thoughts and plans, but I can say the pros of this, my current lifestyle might entail:

-less resources consumed
-less drama, tension and awkwardice passed on to those around me
-perhaps created some positive memes, through general altruism (holding the door, etc)
-don't need to fear death, know my when where and how
-never monopolized on someone else's belongings, mind or spirit for personal, financial or sexual gain (except my parents sorry guys! (though it is your fault))
-life was sort of like a bad movie, and I don't have to look forward to a sequel
-a general....detachment, from the normies who seem too stuck in their roles and narratives, I feel I have more clarity than the people I know
-self validate that I have no self to validate, and this is totally invalid
-get to call myself a nihilist, sounds cool
-get to keep all this to myself, with exception
-don't have to care.
-get to be the villian, always more fun (although that's not really true since I murdered the protagonist a long long time ago)

-never once that I can remember, held someone's ear against their will

*excepting you, the reader of this post