Do you feel you have an unloveable personality.

I personally feel that way. I am actually schizoid rather than avoidant, but whenever I feel like I might want to have a lover, I end up realising that schizoid PD really is not what I'd call a very attractive personality. My view if that if somebody falls in love with me, it will be because of my looks, period. Or that this person would be a very odd person herself.

Yeah, I do feel that I have a completely unlovable personality and not only unlovable but also unlikable. When somebody shows interest in me I usually think that there must be an underlying reason because I simply could never believe that somebody would be even remotely interested in me in any way.

Another_Shinji wrote:Im not so much adverse to being liked but I am to being loved. Meh my girlfriend told me she loved me once and she scored with her ex the next day.......evidence of my unlovability.

Just one simple thing I want you to think about: What exactly makes you so sure that it was your fault instead of HER'S?

Yet more proof that the ladies go for the jerk, right? Sorry that happened to you.

When someone seems to like me (and I'm talking about friendships; I have no experience whatsover in relationships...sigh...), I feel like I have this pressure to maintain them liking me. I start to focus on actually pleasing them further, plan what I'm going to say, feel unbearably awful if I perceive something wasn't said properly. At the first sign that I think, rationally or otherwise, that I just lost some points with someone, I feel like it's over. They don't like me anymore. I said something wrong, and ofcourse have a list easily ready of all the possible things that I could and shouldn't have done. By now, I'm generally surprised if someone likes me. I just assume when I meet someone, that they don't. It's easy on the mind to think you've been rejected already, rather than having that apprehension that disturbs my already deranged social flow. I know, I know... I shouldn't do that. But I need my shield.

I would be Yes and No. I think that I'm an entirely loveable person until I actual get in a relationship and it switches to the opposite line of thinking. As soon as I'm in a relationship I'll start continuously thinking stuff like- why on earth does this person want to be with me? Why would they want to waste their free time with me? What on earth do they see in me?
I actually start to get weirded out by the thought of someone wanting to meet up with me and wanting to get to know me, I find it bizarre.

I do think i have an "unloveable personality" im a bit of a weirdo you coud say, but i dont care cos i am what i am and im happy with who i am except my shyness. My 1st relationship ended 6 years ago but wasnt somthing you coud call a relationship i was 11 years back then to young to have a real relationship, right now i dont search for a relationship nor do i need one. And i find it hard to express emotions or thoughts when im with people.

I think i never was close with any person dont even know what it is or how it is like, so what is it and what is it like?

It's not that I feel "unloveable", it's just that I feel like I'm the most boring person alive. I don't like crowds or parties or noise or drinking or drugs. Carrying on a conversation is torture because I don't know what to say or I'm afraid I'll say something stupid and be teased to death about it (my own family has done that, and now they wonder why I'm such a "private" person). The loneliness sometimes gets to me, like now.

My birthday is tomorrow and, of course, will have no one to celebrate it with. *le sigh*

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