Do you feel you have an unloveable personality.

I do consider myself to be rather boring, and there is not really anything redeeming I can point to >.>; I don't really share any common interests with anyone I've met, I don't listen to a single band, I have a rather monotonous voice, I weigh less than 125 pounds, and can't see anything without my glasses (I view contacts as heresy for some reason >.>)

I also feel like I'm simply unlovable. I'm boring, brutish and not very talkative. Probably doesn't help that I never had any sort of relationship, aside from a online fling where I never even met the person in person. Then there's also the fact that I do want to be loved because it would then force someone to have to endure me.

I often feel that I'm completely unlovable. Plus I feel as though I've had it proven to me. I've had two girlfriends in the short amount of time I managed to keep myself together enough to try dating, and both of them cheated on me before we were together for even two months. What's more is both of them (as far as I know) are still in relationships with the guys they left me for (the most recent relationships of the two ended just over two years ago).

I think its because I'm boring and unengaging. But I feel I've gotten worse since my last relationship. I smoke a lot (of weed) now because it helps me deal with my stress, and I don't see how any girl would like a guy like that. Not to mention I've still not had sex, and I've heard girls in conversation mention how they don't like the idea of "teaching some geek virgin how to have sex," (a conversation I kinda wish I never heard).

Essentially I feel like a lost cause. Or a possibly a charity case, but I really don't want to be.

Yes I do. I have spend a lot of time studying what women look for in a man, and I'm pretty much the opposite of that. I might fool some girl long enough for her to fall in love with me, but once the buzz wears off, she will see who I really am and leave.

I don't consider myself unlovable. Just really inconsistent.

I feel like I do, I'm an extremely boring person and my face always looks angry by itself without me smiling or frowning. I'm very bad at talking and in conversations I'll say things that make absolutely no sense because I'm afraid the person will stop talking to me if I don't talk. So either way I usually end up looking stupid and I get depressed.

I've always been alone my entire life and didn't make an effort to talk to people until I was around 16(I'm almost 18.), so it's like everyone else has a lifetime of experience and I've only started learning how to talk.

Sometimes I wonder why I even bother I'm probably just mentally retarded or something.

Asuka wrote:

GiddyIan wrote:I feel like I do, I'm an extremely boring person and my face always looks angry by itself without me smiling or frowning. I'm very bad at talking and in conversations I'll say things that make absolutely no sense because I'm afraid the person will stop talking to me if I don't talk. So either way I usually end up looking stupid and I get depressed.

I've always been alone my entire life and didn't make an effort to talk to people until I was around 16(I'm almost 18.), so it's like everyone else has a lifetime of experience and I've only started learning how to talk.

Sometimes I wonder why I even bother I'm probably just mentally retarded or something.

You just need more experience in conversation to make up for the time you lost. Think of it as a social experiment and that your're using these people for your own benefit. That way you will be more confident and less depressed if a particular discourse goes poorly.

I try to think that way all the time but I just can't, every time it goes bad all I can think about is how things will never change and I'll never be liked. I'm very sensitive =(.

I mean that's really all it comes down too, I'm super sensitive, especially around woman and unless I know 100% that person is glad I'm around them then I lose what little confidence I have and start losing myself and I break down.