Are we the worst of the worse?

Hey,

I didn't realise that you'e also from Ireland. Anyway, I do believe that people with AvPD suffer a lot, but I'm not sure it's the most because I haven't been unfortunate enough to have suffered every mental illness there is out there. I do look at others sometimes though and think: 'Well, they have problems, but at least they are capable of socialising and will probably get married and have a family. No matter how hard I try, I'll always be alone'

In Ireland especially, I think it's bad to be AvPD because this country has a mono-culture of going to the pub (and getting drunk, obviously). If you don't conform to that, you're gonna suffer badly.

Kevin.

Hmmmm... avoidants do have it pretty bad but I think there are much worse. Many of the illnesses outside the PD world are pretty much worse than avpd like schizophrenia or DID or severe PTSD those can pretty much screw up your life completely and in many cases it's permanent. In the PD world though, yeah avoidants have it pretty bad... I've often said that if somebody wants to promote the idea of how people with PDs are the victims of their disorders all they have to do is point at the avoidants, we pretty much don't harm too many people and we suffer inmensely due to our disorder. Most other PDs burden or harm others in order to cope, avpd is the only one out of them all that pervasively harms itself in order to cope. On the other hand while avpd may be more painful, we are better off than say, schizoids who cannot enjoy anything or narcs who are bound to fail at all their relatioships, or DPDs who NEED to have somebody at their side and StPDs who suffer from ideas of reference and paranoid thoughts and they sometimes even suffer from social anxiety as well, HPDs usually end up chronically depressed, BPDs are unhappy too. So you see, all the PDs have it pretty bad though yes, avpd is the most "painful" as in being the only one that causes tangible psychological pain as a direct result of the disorder and the only one that DOES want to change desperately but cannot seem to do it, while most if not all other PDs seem to not want to change their situation or just don't realize that it is their personality that is causing them to be in pain.

Hi again my friend,

May I direct you to here (if you are still even half-thinking about Japan):

http://www.fas.ie/en/Job+Seeker/Working ... Programme/

You have an honours degree, right? When I get mine next year, I may very well apply for this. I want to emmigrate and try a different culture. I cannot honestly see myself being happy here anymore. I dislike our culture so much. Whenever I talk to a foreigner, the first thing they say about the Irish is how much beer they drink. That's ... ...regretful.

Kevin.

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It seems to me that schizotypal is one step closer to schizophrenia. That would make it worse than AvPD. Obsessive compulsive must be really bad too. Borderline is bad, but it is true that they probably get sex sometimes - that is a big plus.

I never heard of the water allergy before. That would be hard to live with.

Another_Shinji wrote:Thanks Kevin Il check that out as I need as many options as possible. Yeah were a nation of Shane McGowans, its a shame. I hope you do very well in your final exams. Do you mind me asking what you are studying? I got a two one honours degree in history and philosophy with a Narc girl giving me panic attacks to the point where I couldnt attend lectures. I actaully had my eye on the jet programme.

http://www.jetprogramme.org/

Hey chief,

Yeh, I'm studying in Carlow. I just got my ordinary degree in Biosciences and I'll be studying for an honours degree in Bioinformatics next year. I was actually studying Computer Science in DIT many years ago but left it amidst a lot of outside troubles in my life. I'm actually working as an intern in a lab for the Summer, so, that'll look great on my CV.

When did you graduate with your degree? I just ask because my brother graduated with a degree in Philosophy from TCD about 2 or 3 years ago.

Kevin.