What do you think would cure you?

Hey again,

You have it bang-on right there: We need a series of fortunate breaks because one is not good enough. Like, only one is good but if it's not followed by another, you can be dragged right back into the murky world of AvPD. I have been my most social when I have a girlfriend. I think you will find that the girl that will be attracted to you mostly will be talkative, outgoing types. They like quiet people like us because, with us, they get to say everything they want. Since they are outgoing too, it's beneficial for us because it gives us an excuse to get out and talk to people.

Every successful relationship I've had (all two of them) have been with girls like this: Talkative, loud, very sociable people. I seriously doubt I'll end-up with any girl that differs from these characteristics.

Kevin.

I agree with both your posts.

I would need a few breaks, like getting involved with a good circle of friends and getting a good job.

Yup. I totally wasn't ready for a boyfriend when I first went into the world, practice was needed for actually being able to talk to strangers and make and keep friends. Start out small. Baby step your way up. You'll also need luck, such as finding the most comaptible friends and all that.

An outgoing friend or SO can be a big help into getting into more social circles and all that. They'll bring you to parties and have you hang out with their friends, letting you make new friends, kill off some shyness, and practice talking all at once.

Yeah, shy and outgoing people usually do well, but any type of people can go well together. My ex boyfriend was the most extroverted person I have ever met and probably ever will meet. One of my best friends is also very social. I like those types because they're so friendly and open to all sorts of things, making you feel comfortable with them. Also because they're always creating a good time, plus they do most of the talking.

Yeah, so if you really want to go out and get a girlfriend, someone who fits that description would probably be the easiest to get along with.

They like quiet people like us because, with us, they get to say everything they want.

That must be it..... I kind of thought the same, but.... Why people who sort of thrive on excitement like the types that are so lax (even if it's only at first) and quiet has been funny to me. Do you know what I mean?

Hi Sun_Girl,

I'm not sure I know what you mean, but I see lots of examples of quiet person / loud person as a relationship duet. My parents, for example, consist of my very quiet father and my very loud mother. All of her family are the loud type, in fact, and all of his side are quiet.

I have had relationships with quiet girls and even moderatly loud girls before but they fizzled out fast. It was like two magnets trying to connect at their positive ends (i.e. - it just can't happen).

Kevin.

Hi Shinji,

What went wrong exactly with the girl? I'm great for taking initiative on things these days because, when I was younger, I had a crush on a girl for 13 years and never did a thing about it. Having a crush for that long does things to you that make you realise you can't sit around waiting all of the time. You need to take the initiative in situations.

Kevin

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I would like the ability to be a shapeshifter. I would be able to look like or be anyone else. Then if I screw something up I could just become someone else and try again. Eventually I would get it right. I would find the perfect face to attract women too - I could have plenty of gfs then. That's all I need - a superpower!

hehe, but a perfect face won't get you a secure relationship. Sure, good looks can be great for attracting attention from the opposite sex but what makes a relationship last is emotional bonding. You can be the prettiest/handsomest person in the world but be a completely obnoxious person that no-one would want to be with.

Another_Shinji wrote:True. The problem is that as were so reclusive and withdrawn the odds of anything exciting or good happening to us or significantly lower then most.

Yeh that's right but it'll happen. Man, when I think back to all of my 'breaks' in life, they came out of nowhere - I was completely unexpecting them to happen. For example, I met one girl at a payphone and our friendship blossomed from there. Things will just fit together neatly for you, but you have to be trying a bit to.

Kevin.

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I reckon shapeshifting would be better than invisibility too but what I'd really like is to be immortal. I want to be here to witness the Universe evolving and I also wish I could just zap to anywhere in the Universe that I want to. How did we get onto this topic anyway? We were talking about relationships and then Parador mentions shapeshifting! hehe

That's odd you bring 'time' up because I was just reading about time in the book: The Fabric of the Cosmos. Being able to time-travel would be excellent though - you're right. If I could, I'd go back to all major events in history and see how they unfolded for the common person. You rarely hear accounts of them. The only accounts are usually by well-off scholars and military personnel.

Like you, I'd also probably go back and rectify mistakes I've made personally, but I'd feel as if I'm cheating a bit.