Strip clubs

Not only out of fear but also because I have no idea how to conduct myself in settings like that, I have no idea how to flirt and I always just end up acting cold because it's much more safe that way. That way I don't have to say anyhing, so there's no chance of me screwing up.

That sounds like how I used to be in all social situations. If someone I wasn't too personally familiar with talked to me I would usually smile and turn away out of bad nervousness, which would often make my head go blank so I often wouldn't be able to think of how to respond in the first place. That and not doing anything is just killing off any chance of failure.

Lol, the flirting thing brings up memories. I used to be underweight, gaunt faced ('cause of the weight thing), and had a horrible overbite. I was ugly and got made fun for it all the time. Braces and a weight gain (to a twiggy, yet normal state) going into freshman year took care of that. However, I still thought I was ugly and if someone tried to flirt with me my first thought was that they were mocking me. Hmm, my self esteem was at 0 most of my life.


Btw, for those of you who are lonely and want a girlfriend/boyfriend....
Yeah, just saying, you'd probably not be happy in a relationship. Depends on how you are, though. x)
Now in these days I'm 'healthier' compared to most here. Looking back on it, being in a relationship brought out my self-esteem issues and poor self-image and all that crap and made me feel bad about myself more than usual.
Then the trust problems made it stressful and maddening at times. The vigilance of watching for potential threats, trying to figure if they were even something to worry about, second guessing the meaning you were settling on as something new comes up and makes it ambiguous(spelling?) once again. Alllll the time. All over what could always just be nothing. Still the only signs of trust issues I really let show were my inhibitedness with information and emotions, really. lol
It's all exhausting.
How some on this forum have gotten into relationships without too much crazy sinking in is kind of off me. I sure had some problems.


Yeah, point is..... You're not missing too much, if they'd only make you crazy. Ew, this whole post sounds whiny and self-indulgent. I was just giving experience examples to explain how you guys may not be missing anything. >.<

Btw, for those of you who are lonely and want a girlfriend/boyfriend....
Yeah, just saying, you'd probably not be happy in a relationship

I didn't start this thread so much as a relationship thing. It's more about the urge to slobber over a naked female body. Once I've got that down I might start thinking about a relationship.

I know, but there are lot of people of this forum who wish they had a boyfriend or girlfriend. While we were on the subject of flirting and whatnot, I'd thought say all that. Nothing brings out issues quite like an SO was what I was saying.


Lol, sorry for going off-topic with the thread.

To be on topic:

I don't think I'd be too happy in strip club. The sight of naked people just makes me queasy.... I look at the postcards on Postsecret.com where people will sometimes send in cards with nudity on them and noticed they had this effect on me after awhile. I just feel nauseated every time, can't look at them.
Is this weird or something? It can't be that unusual.

Well, I wish you all luck with this stuff. If it will help you with anything, it's always worth a shot.

Looking at naked women sure doesn't make me quesy. I can't get enough. Of pictures that is. The real thing might make me uneasy. Any overtly sexual situation with a real live woman does. I can flirt, but if I get the idea that the woman really wants me to actually DO something I freeze up. PANIC TIME!!! Bad form in any situation with a woman. I've got to get over that somehow.

I just put up a post in the sexuality forum called "Extreme sexual frustration. EXTREME!!" Maybe you guys could read that to get a better idea of what the deal is here.

There's a strip club right across the street. There's been one there for years, and there's been many more in my neighborhood or within easy access. I could walk over there right now...yet I've never been to a single one despite many opportunities, including being "invited" over to one. I have no desire to. But if I did want to go my anxiety would probably get in the way.

I'd like to go to a strip club but I have no idea how those things work.

Like... I wouldn't really have to shove a 20 up some chic's cooter would I?

I'm not sure either. I think you might just stick it in her g-string. That's what I've seen in the movies, but you know how unrealistic they are.

I got more tempted the other week. I was in a city that has one - on my way to the opera. I saw a woman go into one across the street.

In Albany they have "lingerie shops" The models will get naked if you want. I'm not sure how the deal works. Do I have to buy lingerie?