Strip clubs

I have never actually been to a strip club. There aren't many around me, but I visit Montreal and Albany a lot. Those places have plenty, especially Montreal!!!

I have been thinking it might be a good idea to go to strip clubs to help get over my sexual anxiety. Good idea? Bad idea?

Does anyone here go to strip clubs? I actually get anxious over the idea of just going to one. I'm not sure what to expect.

I've never been to a strip club but I can honestly say if it wasn't for my AvPD (and the fact that my girlfriend wouldn't be into the sharing me part) I would totally be a stripper. I have no morals and the money would sure be nice!

I think it if you wanted sex and you just had girls teasing you with it, you may be more frustrated afterward.
Or just seeing naked women, in person, may satisfy you enough. I can understand where it would be like a girl WANTED to get naked for you instead of you hoping for it to happen. It is like skipping a step.

too embarrassing.

Well, there are more than a few strip clubs in my city and I know that all I need is to ask my older brother or cousin and they'll gladly take me to one but I've never seriously thought about it. I mean, yes it'd be nice to see some naked women but I don't see how that can help me in anyway. I mean, that's what I got my brother's porn collection for and he has an excellent selection too.

I've been doing the porn thing for a long time and now it might be time to take it up a notch. Perhaps it will get me more frustrated. But then it may motivate me to do what I think I should - get a hooker.

Yes, it could be embarrassing. But if I'm in another city where nobody knows me that shouldn't be that big a problem.

Hookers I have thinked about... My problem isn't really attracting women though, my problem is keeping myself from rejecting their approaches. In fact, the day before yesterday I was at the mall and two different women tried to flirt with me, and I gave them the silent treatment, as always. To my defense though, one of them was obviously underage. So I think that maybe getting a hooker will somehow allow me to get laid without having to go trough the whole flirting phase, which scares me to death.

You'll normally hear girls talking about random guys doing stuff..... To my knowledge, it doesn't go the other way around as much, though.

Does that happen to you that much? It's sounds like it, from the way you've put it. They don't just walk up and do that, do they? Are you hot or something? Just joking, that's an embarrassing question.
I'm a girl and don't get stuff like that. Some perv will gawk or yell/whistle something, but they don't really make any moves... Unless in certain instances. That's how it seems to work with other girls.
Girls just walking up to a guy they don't know at any old place and hitting on them is new to me, if that's what's happening.

I don't find myself very attractive, but my opinion is obviously biased. I have had my fair share of women who have tried to flirt with me but as I said, I always reject them. Not only out of fear but also because I have no idea how to conduct myself in settings like that, I have no idea how to flirt and I always just end up acting cold because it's much more safe that way. That way I don't have to say anyhing, so there's no chance of me screwing up.

Does that happen to you that much?

Not really... but often enough for it be frustrating...

They don't just walk up and do that, do they?

Unfortunately yes, they were quite forward, they have to be for me to notice. One of them was really pissed when I rejected her, it made me laugh quite hard for some reason. I guess I felt superior

My problem isn't really attracting women though, my problem is keeping myself from rejecting their approaches. In fact, the day before yesterday I was at the mall and two different women tried to flirt with me, and I gave them the silent treatment, as always.

That's exactly the way I was when I was 17-25. I finally learned to flirt in my 30's. But then no women wanted me anymore. In a way it's better because I would get so frustrated that I had screwed it up. Now I don't have to worry about that. But now it's so hard on my self esteem with no one being interested in me.

Their only doing it for money not because they like you so in many ways I would see it as another blow too ones self esteem.

I've thought about that too. But since my self esteem concerning sex and women is already zero it can't hurt.