Songs for avoidants

Mad World! Of course! I love that song.

I thought of some more good Avoidant songs:

See You Soon by Coldplay (very Avoidant)
So you lost your trust
And you never should have
No,you never should have
But don't break your back
If you ever see this
But don't answer that
In a bullet proof vest
With the windows all closed
I'll be doing my best
I'll see you soon
In a telescope lens
And when all you want is friends
I'll see you soon

So they came for you
They came snapping at your heels
They come snapping at your heels
But don't break your back
If you ever say this
But don't answer that

In a bullet proof vest
With the windows all closed
I'll be doing my best
I'll see you soon

In a telescope lens
And when all you want is friends
I'll see you soon
And oh,

And oh, you lost your trust
And oh, you lost your trust
No, don't lose your trust
No, you lost your trust


Grey Room by Damien Rice (starts off being Avoidant but becomes less so about halfway through)
Well I've been here before
Sat on the floor in a grey grey room
Where I stay in all day
I don't eat, but I play with this grey grey food

Desolé, if someone is prayin' then I might break out,
Desolé, even if I scream I can't scream that loud

I'm all alone again
Crawling back home again
Stuck by the phone again

Well I've been here before
Sat on a floor in a grey grey mood
Where I stay up all night
And all that I write is a grey grey tune

So pray for me child, just for a while
That I might break out yeah
Pray for me child
Even a smile would do for now

'Cause I'm all alone again
Crawling back home again
Stuck by the phone again

Have I still got you to be my open door
Have I still got you to be my sandy shore
Have I still got you to cross my bridge in this storm
Have I still got you to keep me warm

If I squeeze my grape and I drink my wine
Coz if I squeeze my grape and I drink my wine
Oh coz nothing is lost, it's just frozen in frost,
And it's opening time, there's no-one in line

But I've still got me to be your open door,
I've still got me to be your sandy shore
I've still got me to cross your bridge in this storm
And I've still got me to keep you warm

Warmer than warm, yeah
Warmer than warm, yeah
Warmer than warm, yeah
Warmer than warm, yeah


I thought of some others, too, which aren't neccessarily Avoidant but are nonetheless depressing, and which I personally interpret as being somewhat Avoidant (in relation to myself, that is).
For this reason I haven't posted the lyrics for the below songs, but I thought someone might still want to know of them.

Lost Cause by Beck

It's All Over by The Broken Family Band

Father and Son by Cat Stevens

Your Love Means Everything by Coldplay

Fix You by Coldplay

In The Sun by Howie Day

Same Mistake by James Blunt

Hurt by Johnny Cash

A Bad Dream by Keane

Runaway Train by Soul Asylum

and

Vienna by The Fray

I'd highly recommend The Weepies. You can listen to them live for free here: http://www.archive.org/details/TheWeepies

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OBzA76QGgz8

When I was a child everybody smiled, nobody knows me at all
Very late at night and in the morning light, nobody knows me at all

Now I got lots of friends, yes, but then again, nobody knows me at all
Kids and a wife, it's a beautiful life, nobody knows me at all

And oh when the lights are low
Oh with someone I don't know

I don't give a damn, I'm happy as a clam, nobody knows me at all
Ah, what can you do? There's nobody like you. Nobody knows me at all

I know how you feel, no secrets to reveal, nobody knows me at all
Very late at night and in the morning light, nobody knows me at all
Nobody knows me, nobody knows me, nobody knows me at all

I can really relate to this song by The Stone Roses (great band!).

The Stone Roses - I Wanna Be Adored:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-cme2q0N7nM

I don't need to sell my soul,
He's already in me.
I don't need to sell my soul,
He's already in me.
I wanna be adored.
I wanna be adored.

I don't ..... I wanna be adored.
You adore me.
You adore me.
You adore me.
I wanna I wanna I wanna be adored.
I wanna I wanna I wanna be adored.
I wanna I wanna I wanna be adored.
I wanna, I gotta, I wanna be adored.

I wanna be adored.

Gary Allan-Trying to Matter

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cm_e_FpySOc

We walk, We fly
We stay sober
We get high

We sleep all day
Stay up all night
Right or wrong
We live our lives

We work, We play
We leave
And we stay

We worry abut tomorrow, today
We laugh, cry, cuss and pray

Trying to matter to somebody
Trying to get the time of day
Trying to fit into this crazy world
Somehow, somewhere, someway
It's all we're all looking for
It's never too late, you know
To try to matter to
The ones that matter most

I've lived
I've learned
That bridges don't just burn
That's the Devil's selfish pride at work
Every chance he gets
He'll take his turn

Trying to matter to somebody
Trying to get the time of day
Trying to fit into this crazy world
Somehow, somewhere, someway
It's all we're all looking for
It's never too late, you know
To try to matter to
The ones that matter most

Trying to matter to somebody
Trying to get the time of day
Trying to fit into this crazy world
Somehow, somewhere, someway
It's all we're all looking for
It's never too late, you know
To try to matter to
The ones that matter most

It's never too late, you know

Trying to matter to somebody

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Good songs.

I just recently heard one that I really liked, it's not particularly relavent for avoidants but for anyone who is unhappy. It's not depressing or anything either, it's a real fun song.

Theory of a Dead Man - Hate My Life
Here's a link to listen! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h7p8BRYCYbM&feature=related

So sick of the hobos always begging for change
I don't like how I gotta work and
And they just sit around and get paid
I hate all of the people who can't drive their cars.
Bitch you better get outta the way
Before I start falling apart

I hate how my wife is always up my ass
She always wants to buy brand new things
But I don't have the cash.

I hate my job, all of my rich friends
I hate everyone to the bitter end.
Nothing turns out right, there's no end in sight
I hate my life!

How come I never get laid, nice guys always lose.
How could she have another headache
There's always some kind of excuse
I still hate my job, my boss is a dick
"I don't get paid nearly enough
To put up with all of your $#%^"

I hate my job, all of my rich friends
I hate everyone to the bitter end.
Nothing turns out right, there's no end in sight
I hate my life!
Yeah!

I hate that I can't tell when a girl's underage,
You know, I tell her she's a nice piece of ass,
Then her daddy punches me in the face

So if you're pissed like me
Bitches, here's what you gotta do
Put your middle fingers up in the air
Go on and say "###$ you!"

I hate my job, all of my rich friends
I hate everyone to the bitter end.
Nothing turns out right There's no end in sight
I hate my life!

So much at stake, can't catch a break
I hate my life
No, it's nothing new hear " it sucks to be you"
I ###$ hate my life

There's banging on the wall
It's 5am – I've got no sleep at all
Just thoughts of how I might struggle through tomorrow
Too much time in one day
Too much time to occupy
With boring thoughts
And boring moods
And boring bedtimes
Won't tell a single soul that my soul's gone
It's hard to write this song
It's all a joke
It's all been wrote down by someone who's probably dead

There's laughter from below
It's 1am -- how could you have known?
The thoughts of silence that had me
From going back to sleep at night
Wish I could call someone I love
To stop thinking of myself
Long look in the mirror
Just... looks back so blankly
You were right: I can't do this
I'm going crazy, it's gone by me and you can't see
How much I think I'm empty

carissa's wierd - so you wanna be a superhero
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7zHZrcHdxg

Interpol - NYC

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwOkqPNq4w0

"Wait and Bleed"

I've felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves
I wander out where you can't see
Inside my shell, I wait and bleed.
I felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves
I wander out where you can't see
Inside my shell, I wait and bleed.

Goodbye!

I wipe it of on tile, the light is brighter this time
Everything is 3D blasphemy
My eyes are red and gold, the hair is standing straight up
This isn't the way I pictured me
I can't control my shakes, how the hell did I get here?
Something about this, so very wrong
I have to laugh out loud, I wish I didn't like this
Is it a dream or a memory?

I felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves
I wander around where you can't see
Inside my shell, I wait and bleed

Get outta my head cuz I don't need this
Why didn't I see this? I'm a victim - Manchurian candidate
I - have - sinned - by - just
Makin' my mind up and takin' your breath away!

I felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves
I wander around where you can't see
Inside my shell, I wait and bleed
I felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear that stone of leaves
I wander out where you can't see
Inside my shell, I wait and bleed.

Goodbye!

You haven't learned a thing
I haven't changed a thing
My flesh was in my bones
The pain was always free
You haven't learned a thing
I haven't changed a thing
My flesh was in my bones
The pain was always free

I felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves
I wander out where you can't see
Inside my shell I wait and bleed
I felt the hate rise up in me
Kneel down and clear the stone of leaves
I wander out where you can't see
Inside my shell, I wait and bleed.

And it waits for you...

Genesis- Lonely Man on the Corner



See the lonely man there on the corner,
What he's waiting for, I don't know,
But he waits everyday now.
He's just waiting for something to show.

And nobody knows him,
And nobody cares,
'Cos there's no hiding place,
There's no hiding place - for you.

Looking everywhere at no one,
He sees everything and nothing at all - oh.
When he shouts nobody listens,
Where he leads no one will go - oh.

He's a lonely man, there on the corner,
What he's waiting for, I don't know,
But he waits everyday now.
And he's just waiting for something to show - oh.

Nobody knows him,
And nobody cares,
'Cos there's no hiding place,
There's no hiding place - for you and me.

Are we just like all the rest,
We're looking too hard for something he's got
Or moving too fast to rest.
But like a monkey on your back you need it.
But do you love it enough to leave it - ah.

Just like the lonely man there on the corner,
What he's waiting for, I don't know - oh.
But he waits every day now.
He's just waiting for that something to show - oh.

Who's the lonely man there on the corner,
What he's waiting for, I don't know.
But he's there every day now.
And he's just waiting for something to show - oh.

Who's the lonely man there on the corner,
What he's waiting for, I don't know.
Oh but he waits every day now.
He's just waiting for that something to show.

The song is more than likely to pertain to the homeless, but I think that's matter of interpretation. The "lonely man" could be anyone.