Girl at work told me I should get a gf

I'm not sure if she was flirting or what the deal was. It was a while back near my birthday. It was on the calendar at work whose birthdays and we just had the monthly celebration. She was asking me what my birth date was and I said due to ID theft concerns I never told anyone. I said I was frozen in time anyway and no longer have birthdays. I said it was my cat's birthday. I write than on the board where it say's Parador's birthday - I put an 's cat to make it Parador's cat's birthday. Somehow it got to how devoted I am to kitty and she tells me I should get a real gf. Like she knows I don't have one. Maybe I should fake having a gf? Anyone want to make $50 and come by my workplace posing as my gf? MUST BE HOT though.

Well that one requirement gets me off the hook.

Can't you pay a prostitute to do that?

skyflyz wrote:Well that one requirement gets me off the hook.

Can't you pay a prostitute to do that?

That would be too weird for her I think. Much weirder than tying me up and urinating on me I bet! It's hard to find working girls now - they just shut down backpage. And the new law makes it too dangerous for even craigslist to keep their meetup site open:

Craigslist Shuts Down Personals Section After Congress Passes Bill On Trafficking

As Craigslist wrote, the law seeks "to subject websites to criminal and civil liability when third parties (users) misuse online personals unlawfully."

There's no way anyone can be sure what third parties are doing on websites. Now ANY meetup site would be dangerous to run.

A number of years ago, I met a woman who worked at the storage/rental place I had some stuff stored. I had to stop by once a month and pay my storage rental...For whatever reason, we struck up a nice conversation everytime I went there. That's usually an impossibility with me, but she had such a sweet and genial personality I couldn't help but be comfortable around her. I know she wasn't flirting with me 'cause it was her husband who actually owned the place and she made sure to bring that fact up a lot....She probably had to since I'm sure a lot of guys hit on her. Anyway, one day there was no one around but me and her so I told her about my social anxiety and how difficult it was for me to just make chit chat, and how comfortable I always felt around her. I was giving her a compliment in my own awkward way. I think that's why she liked me so much, she found my awkwardness charming and cute somehow. Anyway, I told her a bit about my condition and she was really understanding and empathetic. The next time I went in she had actually googled social anxiety and avpd....I told her people at work gave me crap about not having a girlfriend. She said "You want me to pose as your g/f?? I'll do it for you.." And so she did! For about a year, she'd show up around lunch time and we'd fake going to lunch together. I hated it when her husband sold the biz and they moved to another state.

jackbolin wrote:A number of years ago, I met a woman who worked at the storage/rental place I had some stuff stored. I had to stop by once a month and pay my storage rental...For whatever reason, we struck up a nice conversation everytime I went there. That's usually an impossibility with me, but she had such a sweet and genial personality I couldn't help but be comfortable around her. I know she wasn't flirting with me 'cause it was her husband who actually owned the place and she made sure to bring that fact up a lot....She probably had to since I'm sure a lot of guys hit on her. Anyway, one day there was no one around but me and her so I told her about my social anxiety and how difficult it was for me to just make chit chat, and how comfortable I always felt around her. I was giving her a compliment in my own awkward way. I think that's why she liked me so much, she found my awkwardness charming and cute somehow. Anyway, I told her a bit about my condition and she was really understanding and empathetic. The next time I went in she had actually googled social anxiety and avpd....I told her people at work gave me crap about not having a girlfriend. She said "You want me to pose as your g/f?? I'll do it for you.." And so she did! For about a year, she'd show up around lunch time and we'd fake going to lunch together. I hated it when her husband sold the biz and they moved to another state.

Cool story. Too bad you didn't get a bj! I don't get a hard time from people at work about being a loner really. Everyone knows I was in a psych hospital for 2 years - or almost everyone. This women gives odd signals though. When the subject of flying comes up and I say I'd love to go to Europe but don't want to ride in a death machine she says she will take me to Europe someday - she's from Belgrade. It's really cool that she knows who Vasja Pirc is.

I have a sneaking suspicion if I'd have asked for one, I'd have gotten it...But, alas....I didn't wanna potentially ruin something great....Damn these morals I have

"Girl at work told me I should get a gf"

Yeah, just because everyone else is doing it. You gotta do exactly what the rest of the herd is doing...

Tell her that's the Argumentum Ad Populum logical fallacy thus her argument fails.

This is so typical though. I have heard this so many times about so many things, over the years - whenever I do anything that's considered "not normal" or out of line with society's expectations. If I had a nickel...

I was doing some side work for a guy last week, and at one point he asked me, in a tone of disbelief, "So... you don't have any kids? Or a wife?" And I stupidly let him know that this criticism offended me by retorting with, "No. Why is that against the law?" Then he said I was "a catch." That lots of women are looking for a man with no kids and isn't married." I just redirected it by saying, "Yeah, and a lot of women are looking for men that are married."

Not sure why he thinks i'm "a catch." Yeah, women really love a man with lots of issues and no money...

Parador wrote:I'm not sure if she was flirting or what the deal was. It was a while back near my birthday. It was on the calendar at work whose birthdays and we just had the monthly celebration. She was asking me what my birth date was and I said due to ID theft concerns I never told anyone. I said I was frozen in time anyway and no longer have birthdays. I said it was my cat's birthday. I write than on the board where it say's Parador's birthday - I put an 's cat to make it Parador's cat's birthday. Somehow it got to how devoted I am to kitty and she tells me I should get a real gf. Like she knows I don't have one. Maybe I should fake having a gf? Anyone want to make $50 and come by my workplace posing as my gf? MUST BE HOT though.

From the fact that you celebrate your cat's birthday I think she deduced that you do not have a
girlfriend. I don't see the point in faking to have a gf. Do you want a gf?

In-Some-Niak wrote:

"Girl at work told me I should get a gf"

Yeah, just because everyone else is doing it. You gotta do exactly what the rest of the herd is doing...

Tell her that's the Argumentum Ad Populum logical fallacy thus her argument fails.

This is so typical though. I have heard this so many times about so many things, over the years - whenever I do anything that's considered "not normal" or out of line with society's expectations. If I had a nickel...

I was doing some side work for a guy last week, and at one point he asked me, in a tone of disbelief, "So... you don't have any kids? Or a wife?" And I stupidly let him know that this criticism offended me by retorting with, "No. Why is that against the law?" Then he said I was "a catch." That lots of women are looking for a man with no kids and isn't married." I just redirected it by saying, "Yeah, and a lot of women are looking for men that are married."

Not sure why he thinks i'm "a catch." Yeah, women really love a man with lots of issues and no money...

I own a house and drive a fancy Hyundai Elantra! But women aren't jumping all over me. Not being normal is a red flag. If you've had too many partners it's a red flag. If you've had too few that's also a red flag. Gotta be in that Goldilocks Zone!

I really didn't take it in a bad way. She seems like a pretty good person. It was either a compliment or a flirt. Not sure which.

WinnieThePooh wrote:
From the fact that you celebrate your cat's birthday I think she deduced that you do not have a
girlfriend. I don't see the point in faking to have a gf. Do you want a gf?

My experience has always been that the closer you get to someone the more likely they are to stab you in the back. There are good people but they generally get attached by age 30 at the latest. It's just not worth the troube and risk of seeking a mate at a certain point. Especially in this political climate. A local guy got kicked out of his own house after his gf accused him of grabbing her arm.