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Thanks both of you. I sometimes forget what my therapist always say: It may be understandable, but is it reasonable? I really need to work on seeing the positives. Lonelydaydream, I hope you are doing way better than I am.

MindOnAir wrote:Thanks both of you. I sometimes forget what my therapist always say: It may be understandable, but is it reasonable? I really need to work on seeing the positives. Lonelydaydream, I hope you are doing way better than I am.

Hope you're OK, MindOnAir. It's OK to have a lively discussion!

I often find myself behaving in ways which are understandable, but not reasonable! To people who don't know my background I worry that I must seem like an absolute loony on occasion - but I muddle through! I'm doing better than I was 6 months ago. For example, my friend promised to call me today, but she didn't. However, instead of imagining all sorts of horrible things, I managed to keep myself calm and told myself to wait & see... and sure enough she eventually texted me to apologise for not ringing but she had been unexpectedly busy. I'm so glad I didn't go off into a panic! (Along with AvPD I have PTSD following my husband's sudden death 4 years ago - I'm subconsciously terrified everyone else is going to die...)

Hope you & Holodeck are having a good day!

lonelydaydream wrote:

MindOnAir wrote:Thanks both of you. I sometimes forget what my therapist always say: It may be understandable, but is it reasonable? I really need to work on seeing the positives. Lonelydaydream, I hope you are doing way better than I am.

Hope you're OK, MindOnAir. It's OK to have a lively discussion!

I often find myself behaving in ways which are understandable, but not reasonable! To people who don't know my background I worry that I must seem like an absolute loony on occasion - but I muddle through! I'm doing better than I was 6 months ago. For example, my friend promised to call me today, but she didn't. However, instead of imagining all sorts of horrible things, I managed to keep myself calm and told myself to wait & see... and sure enough she eventually texted me to apologise for not ringing but she had been unexpectedly busy. I'm so glad I didn't go off into a panic! (Along with AvPD I have PTSD following my husband's sudden death 4 years ago - I'm subconsciously terrified everyone else is going to die...)

Hope you & Holodeck are having a good day!

Thank you. I've been hanging out with my family more often. My mother has been asking me to go grocery shopping with her. Instead of saying no, I say yes. I also have moved my TV, laptop, and Xbox from my room into the dining room about a month ago. I have a normal sleeping schedule now because of this move. Instead of sleeping at 6 0'clock in the morning on my days off. I feel so bad at my actions sometimes. I'm trying to do things sensibly. Sorry about your husband, LonelyDayDream.

MindOnAir wrote:

lonelydaydream wrote:

MindOnAir wrote:Thanks both of you. I sometimes forget what my therapist always say: It may be understandable, but is it reasonable? I really need to work on seeing the positives. Lonelydaydream, I hope you are doing way better than I am.

Hope you're OK, MindOnAir. It's OK to have a lively discussion!

I often find myself behaving in ways which are understandable, but not reasonable! To people who don't know my background I worry that I must seem like an absolute loony on occasion - but I muddle through! I'm doing better than I was 6 months ago. For example, my friend promised to call me today, but she didn't. However, instead of imagining all sorts of horrible things, I managed to keep myself calm and told myself to wait & see... and sure enough she eventually texted me to apologise for not ringing but she had been unexpectedly busy. I'm so glad I didn't go off into a panic! (Along with AvPD I have PTSD following my husband's sudden death 4 years ago - I'm subconsciously terrified everyone else is going to die...)

Hope you & Holodeck are having a good day!

Thank you. I've been hanging out with my family more often. My mother has been asking me to go grocery shopping with her. Instead of saying no, I say yes. I also have moved my TV, laptop, and Xbox from my room into the dining room about a month ago. I have a normal sleeping schedule now because of this move. Instead of sleeping at 6 0'clock in the morning on my days off. I feel so bad at my actions sometimes. I'm trying to do things sensibly. Sorry about your husband, LonelyDayDream.

Thanks, MindOnAir. It sounds like you're taking some really positive steps! That's great.

lonelydaydream wrote:Horrible, horrible person - I'm not surprised he's friendless. I was only tying to help.

Don't worry about it-like you said it's no wonder he's friendless.