They avoid me silently...

Hi all,

Looking for some piece of advice. Some time ago I met someone. We got close. It was imperfect and real unlike anything I had ever known. At one point this person started telling me that "their defense mechanism had been activated" and that they had suffered before so they were reluctant to continue the connection. Then all of a sudden our communication stopped, no good byes, no explanations. My attempts to reach for them failed. They avoid me silently. I have feelings for this person and I believe our connection deserves at least some sort of closure.
I have run out of options and in pain...
Thanks
P.V

Move on. You got ghosted.

Hello.

Well, that sucks Unfortunately it happens at times, especially when dealing with someone that might not be doing well. Unfortunately, there's nothing that can be really done, even more so if it was online.

A small bit of comfort is that it's better for it to have happened earlier than later, because if it didn't happen now, it would have eventually happened at a later date, when you would have been even closer. There might have been other things that might have happened that would have hurt you if you stayed with that person longer.

It is painful to deal with someone that just cuts you off like that and the emotions can make it hard for you to think about what happened without emotions tainting your judgment. If it is really painful, then you should consider a therapist, like in my case. It's important to remember, though, that if that person can do something like that to you, then god knows what else he/she could have done.

Certainly something you need to remember if you are having trouble dealing with your pain.