Hi

It is an Avoidant open forum. Which means that although it's directed at a specific group of people, it's still open for practically anyone to post. As long as they don't break the rules, obviously.
So yeah. Sure, you can try and fight them off. And they can still post here. In my opinion, there is no compromise to accept - it's just how it is.
Or you can just ignore them. Because the troll will be around only as long as you feed it.
But let's agree to disagree

volatile wrote:And they seem to get bored quickly anyway.

It's a generalized thing.

This thread looks like a scene from Goodfellows.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWINtUCshxY

Great movie and great scene.. thanks.

The funny thing is that you're usually the one attacking people, inverse. As a self-appointed police on who is avoidant enough by your standards.
Even the very rare trolls who come in here are usually way less agressive and disappear soon anyway.

...and yeah, totally, this scene.

I feel I should apologize to Animosity for temporarily hijacking your thread yesterday. Sorry, man.

this thread seemed to go from a supposed gang-up on Animosity to then everyone backing off & then ganging up on inverse. clearly these "hello, i'm curious so entertain me" posts aren't cool, and new people coming to the forum should be aware of that. I can see where inverse is coming from and i just wanted to say so because somehow this thread switched to everyone saying inverse is most in the wrong and i don't think that's fair at all.

i'm new totally to this forum and inverse's posts have helped me probably the most of anyone here. i don't know, i just think it's crappy that regulars to the AvPD forum / ppl contributing the most and actually providing amazing help and information day after day to both regular and new people - are somehow all at odds with each other when it was someone showing up & posting an "i'm curious, entertain me at the zoo"-type post, which is really the true problem. Not sure it's really fair to "police" how people diagnosed with AvPD react to being prodded at in this way - it seems totally legitimate to be pissed off by it. inverse & anyone else is pretty justified to react with hostility to these types of posts because essentially posts like this are kind of dehumanising at the bottom of it, even if they seem like someone just harmlessly seeking distraction from boredom.

Marcus555 wrote:I feel I should apologize to Animosity for temporarily hijacking your thread yesterday. Sorry, man.

It's fine.

venividivicky wrote:The funny thing is that you're usually the one attacking people, inverse.

I don't attack people, but I don't enable them either. It is heartless to let people convince themselves that they have a permanent, life-destroying condition when they don't have it. Coddling people in this situation can end up with them wasting years of their life. "Being supportive" and "encouraging" people to accept a "self diagnosis" only benefits one person - you, because now you have another "safe" person in your life.

If people come on here and say they have some traits and want to know how to deal with them, that's awesome and I'll tell them everything I know. If they say "ooh, cozy new lifestyle where I can wallow instead of pulling on my big person pants and dealing with my issues!" - nope, they need a reality check and to be pointed in the direction where they'll actually be able to improve their lives.

Look it up, my behavior - interacting without enabling or coddling but understanding of what people are going through (or not) - is by definition of an act kindness and compassion. Trying to trap people because I'm lonely is not.

inverse wrote:

venividivicky wrote:The funny thing is that you're usually the one attacking people, inverse.

I don't attack people, but I don't enable them either. It is heartless to let people convince themselves that they have a permanent, life-destroying condition when they don't have it. Coddling people in this situation can end up with them wasting years of their life. "Being supportive" and "encouraging" people to accept a "self diagnosis" only benefits one person - you, because now you have another "safe" person in your life.

If people come on here and say they have some traits and want to know how to deal with them, that's awesome and I'll tell them everything I know. If they say "ooh, cozy new lifestyle where I can wallow instead of pulling on my big person pants and dealing with my issues!" - nope, they need a reality check and to be pointed in the direction where they'll actually be able to improve their lives.

Look it up, my behavior - interacting without enabling or coddling but understanding of what people are going through (or not) - is by definition of an act kindness and compassion. Trying to trap people because I'm lonely is not.

...I think your writing style comes off differently than you you intend it to.