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Re: talking to myself

Postby Me v2 » Tue Sep 22, 2015 11:30 pm

There's really no point responding if you only see what you want to see and not what is there.
If you choose to interpret things in the way you wish to, that's your choice, but it doesn't change what I have written.
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It is only thoughts that cause suffering. Yes, its all in our minds but that is where all of life is experienced.
Change your thoughts, change your life...& be at peace, again
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Re: talking to myself

Postby MacNabs » Thu Sep 24, 2015 3:32 am

I've been talking to myself ever since I was a kid. It was out of loneliness and trying to keep myself busy. Kept the habit and I don't see it go away since it's pretty much integrated into who I am. I talk to myself through tasks or I even have conversations with myself when I think something over, either a topic in particular, an event that happened or anything that I want to unravel and think about.

I do it when I'm alone or I'm sure that no one will hear me, because I can talk to myself for quite a bit. I avoid doing it when someone else is around because I'm aware that it's perceived as strange or even as a sign of mental illness. When my mother notices me talking to myself, she usually tells me something along the lines of : "Are you talking to yourself?" I've been doing it for a long time and I know that my mother doesn't think that it's healthy, hence why I learned to be careful and stay undercover.

That aspect isn't bad, I think it helps me analyze and understand stuff better. I also don't talk out loud to myself in a negative way either, which is something that I notice now that I think about it. It's a bit surprising considering how much self-loathing I have, although inner dialogue, I think, is another subject.
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Re: talking to myself

Postby Auxiliary11 » Thu Sep 24, 2015 5:02 am

Almost every night.

Wow that sounds creepy.

Mostly it's just quietly mumbling to myself going over imaginary conversations, as well as trying to fix past experiences in my head. I see it as a more pronounced form of fantasy, I talk to myself because it makes it seem more real and like I'm in that moment. I could be anyone or anything.

Interesting to hear others do this to, thought it was a sign I was going mad.
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Re: talking to myself

Postby lilyfairy » Thu Sep 24, 2015 11:51 am

I do it too. To me, it's just thinking out loud. I also go over imaginary or past conversations/experiences too. If I was having full on conversations with myself or started talking about really odd/out there things, it might be more cause for concern, but otherwise I think it's just part of the way I process things.
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Re: talking to myself

Postby inverse » Thu Sep 24, 2015 1:48 pm

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Re: talking to myself

Postby Hepzibah Pynchon » Thu Sep 24, 2015 4:27 pm

That was a neat article Inverse, nice to know there are benefits to it. Agree it helps focus attention and screen out emotions, eg. working thru tasks. And I bet it's more common among those of us who are introverts - as opposed to going to someone else to help work things thru.
Guess I'll keep chatting away. Sometimes I even pick a word of the day, like I see on signs outside of schools around here. It will be something like "integrity" or "empathy." Only my word of the day is usually something fun (hey, I'm easily amused) like "massive" or "hotdog." Then every time I think of the word that day I smile. Weird what a lonely mind will do, must have too much time on my hands!
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Re: talking to myself

Postby inverse » Fri Sep 25, 2015 1:36 am

Do you know what angel cards are? They are little slips of cardstock with words like, forgiveness, serenity, magnetism, etc on them. You're supposed to choose one randomly each day and think about the topic, how it applies to you and people you interact with, throughout the day. It's kind of like tarot, kind of like meditation. Just a way to get you to focus on one aspect of yourself.

I'm not advertising for them. This is what they look like.
http://www.yourangelshop.ie/img/p/26-91-thickbox.jpg
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Re: talking to myself

Postby naps » Sun Oct 04, 2015 5:22 pm

sometimes when I'm talking to myself I'll think up things to post on these forums. I'll write the whole thing out in my head, editing it as I go along. Frequently, it's a new thread. I don't always get around to posting them though.
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Re: talking to myself

Postby BrokenSword » Sun Oct 04, 2015 6:18 pm

Seems like I'm the odd one out - I never talk to myself. I hate hearing my own voice, so I'm not going to speak out loud when there's no one around!
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Re: talking to myself

Postby naps » Sun Oct 04, 2015 6:27 pm

actually, at least for me, I do all this talking to myself in my head. Especially the "conversations with someone who isn't there" stuff. When I talk to my cats it's out loud as they are not telepathic. At least I don't think they are. And I'll probably never know.
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