Poll: Self Image

Please add your answer. I think that on an unconscious level I may want to be overweight to keep people away. I have no evidence to believe this happens. But I have had a therapist bring much insight to things I do, to stay "safe" without relizing I'm doing it.

Welcome Back Juice,

Yes the change is even harder, I understand. I want to encourage you to put that makeup on, but I'm not going to push it as I know how hard it is.

When I was in highschool, I was quite good looking but I didn't know it. I should have, as I always had a car load of girls. But I would look in the mirror and curse myself as I saw me as so ugly. When I look back at pictures of me from that period now and could see that I wasn't.

Now as for you, I'd be shocked if you didn't have a few guys wishing to be close to you and when you're grown and 20 years from now if you run back into them, I suspect you'll find out you missed a lot of oppurtunities. How do I know? I'm in contact with some of the girls from my high school days and they "wanted to smother me in kisses."

There was Wanda Westmorland. Eveyone thought she was so ugly and I couldn't figure it out. I thought she was pretty. She was a little skinny but that long blonde hair was awesome to me.

Then one night she showed up at the skating ring I hung out in Middle School and whoa, she had make up on, tight jeans, tight shirt and she was NOT ugly, now it was cool to be seen with her. I was wishing I had acted on my first own original opinions rather than what everyone else thought was cool. That's really hard at your age and even at ages above yours. But twice as hard in HS.

But it sounds like you don't want a boyfriend, well I'm assuming you're into guys, if wrong substitute your on preference. That you do, but the fear of getting there are too strong and prevent you from getting there?

You know, you're young, you could "grow out" of this. I say that because the girl that recently told me she thought of me every night when going to sleep and watned to smother me in kisses. Now she's very outgoing. I'm not but I've imporved.

I have an eating disorder so obviously I do.

shouldnt this be in ED???

Consciously, I know I am an attractive person, but I am very rarely able to feel it. My way of coping with feeling inadequate and inattractive is to do my best to make myself to look the best I can to compensate for what I feel is an otherwise unappealing person. When I look in the mirror all I am able to see is my flaws. I know this is ridiculous. I AM attractive, but I can never feel that way and probably never will. I feel like guys never look at me (people tell me this is totally untrue, but somehow I am unable to notice it - maybe I am just projecting my feelings). Whether it's being overweight or feeling ugly, I think it stems from the insecurity avoidants feel around other people. I never think that other people look at me and think I am a good-looking person, even though I know this to be untrue. Can anyone else relate to that?

I don't think I'm attractive at all. Some people have told me I'm pretty, but I don't believe them. I hate looking in the mirror.. I just walk away. I don't wear revealing clothes or alot of makeup because I don't want to draw attention to myself.. I hate being noticed.

I chose "yes" because i'm not buff. But definately not fat! I'm 6'2 and like 180. But for some reason once in awile I don't look good and not sure why... Especially if I don't sleep. Still yet to figure out why I don't look good sometimes while other times I look great.

My boyfriend (and, apparently, others) have told me that I am attractive. Personally I hate looking in the mirror, but if they think I'm okay, then that's for them to feel.

And I have a realistic idea of my weight: I'm nowhere near the slim ideal for this society's beauty standards, but I know that despite that, I am not overweight.

IC. Mirrors are lik my life... My question in life is why do I look different in different mirrors