Sensitivity to Wording

Does anyone else find that they can be sensitive to the wording people choose in emails and texts?

I find I can be sensitive when people change their greetings or salutations in emails, because I feel like I have done something to upset them. As well, I sometimes get self conscious when people are forwarded emails unnecessarily, because I feel like I am being put on the spot to the group.

Very much so, even punctuation, but there is a lot that can be expressed by language and tone, the latter which is harder to come across in written form for many.

do you get told off a lot for 'reading into things too much'? I do - but to me it is logical, if you say a set of words in a certain way, that I will make a conclusion of it. This causes a lot of problems for me. can't tell if it's cos I'm a bit too borderline or because I still deal with people who are very difficult... I do think, they can't ALL be the monsters I've painted them out to be...

people just annoy me....

Unsocial Butterfly wrote:I sometimes get self conscious when people are forwarded emails unnecessarily, because I feel like I am being put on the spot to the group.

Oh I HATE that. Especially if I'm writing to one person and suddenly I'm part of a group. Do I reply to just the original person and seem like an elitist snob? Or do I reply to everyone and spend the entire day thinking about how each person is thinking "Who the hell is this guy, anyway?"

Sometimes I wish I had other people's email passwords so I can sneak into their account and delete my responses to them.

Yep, I often read a meaning into things. Or wonder if I need to read between the lines. Usually it's all very benign but I am just so suspicious. As if there has to be a hidden meaning. I think that I just assume that all communication about must be negative ....because obviously I'm totally rubbish. I think by now that I am a tiny bit paranoid. Also, I can read hidden meanings into body language, verbal communication and lack of communication even!

snookiebookie wrote:Yep, I often read a meaning into things. Or wonder if I need to read between the lines. Usually it's all very benign but I am just so suspicious. As if there has to be a hidden meaning. I think that I just assume that all communication about must be negative ....because obviously I'm totally rubbish. I think by now that I am a tiny bit paranoid. Also, I can read hidden meanings into body language, verbal communication and lack of communication even!

I often do the same thing. I just have to remind myself to take a step back, and try to always react without showing a emotional reaction. For example, today at work someone accused my of not giving them accurate instructions, and was argumentative over the phone. I really hate arguing with people, but I calmed down after the manager agreed that it was unreasonable to call the instructions unclear.

I think I became even more sensitive last year when we had a manager in the office who alternate between yelling at people and giving them the silent treatment. She had very black and white thinking, and would never apologize for anything she said to anyone.