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Postby Lo » Mon Jan 01, 2007 12:42 pm

Has anyone here ever left or thought of leaving pleasant anonymous messages or letters for people to find? Or gifts even?

I did this a few times, and sometimes I just write really thoughtful letters to people, which I usually won't give to them.
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Postby BlueShift » Mon Jan 01, 2007 10:39 pm

Not exactly, but have done a few things to keep my younger brother out of trouble without him ever finding out. Got even in trouble on several occasions, though rather me than him. Don't think he even knows he is my best friend, but I don't mind.

In my school days I also used to give my school books/home work to classmates who forgot theirs. Not really anonymous but it did please them.
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Postby Lo » Tue Jan 02, 2007 1:29 am

Yeah, I’m the one people go to ask for copies of assignments or hw questions. I’ll email them to people, or type them and give out the hard copies sometimes.

I know this might sound really weird but once in high school I created this game for a friend of mine. It was a series of hidden notes leading up to a long letter. So the first note started at a tree, and then it told him to go to another spot and that led to another spot, and on and on until the very end. I remember watching him secretly during lunchtime to make sure he got the final note. He felt really special that I took the time to set something like that up for him. Though its possible he really thought I was a freak and was just being nice.

I guess it was my attempt to show that I liked him without saying it outright.
I was inspired by that movie Amelie- the French movie starring Audrey Tautou? I’m such a dork . . .

Sometimes I thought that I could just spend what would be my ‘social time’ secretly trying to make random people happy, or influencing them in some way. Kinda sounds like I'd end up being a stalker . . . :(
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Postby BlueShift » Tue Jan 02, 2007 2:27 am

I cannot make myself happy, but if I can make someone else happy?

I do it for aestetics, not as much for the targeted person as for people like us who may be the coincidental anonymous audience and understand the underlying reasoning.

I was inspired by that movie Amelie- the French movie starring Audrey Tautou?


I should watch it sometime, I hear it's good.


By the way, dorks are cool. Methinks we are great in our own (pathetic) way. We'll never get any credit for our contributions to society (if any), but shouldn't mind either.
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Postby MrBrightside » Mon Jan 29, 2007 12:56 am

I do sometimes feel like writting great uplifting letters to people, like to my therapist, but i dont send them. Another one was to a good friend of mine who was going trough a career crossroad, and it may have made a difference if i had sent it, but i didnt, because as i finnished it i thought 'aw, he is going to think I love him LOVE him, dang'.

Somewhat related to making others feel good because we cant, i sometimes think i could be a really good artist rep (manager), because i could put a filter between the results they get and how i feel about them, sort of like an emotional modifier, i dont feel entirely frustraded when thigs dont go right for the artist, and i get to feel secret joy when they succeed.

Also, i dont know if this counts, but just the other day i suscribed some biatch's email to a lot of newsletters, because she loaded up her pic and msn account and said something like 'contact me, i want only argentinians, not dirty brown paraguayan, mexicans or others'... but i guess thats just old fashioned 'being a jackass'. heh

:lol:

Another time I did send an anonymous message to a girl i had a crush on, but when i felt like i would never be with her, because of how i am. I made a new hotmail account and wrote her a love message.
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