urgh the pain

Why is doing the simplest thing so bloody hard?
This week im experiencing an all consuming fear; last yr at college i decided i was just going to give up trying too hard to make friends & now strangely enough ive attracted more friends than ive ever had!
One friend in particular kept inviting me out with her friends but i kept saying no and making excuses. However, this time she asked there was just no way of getting out of it- ive become an accomplished liar at making excuses but i was put on the spot and had to agree.
NOW, all week ive been dreading going, i don't even know her friends arrrgggghhhhh & i have to sleep over at one of their houses arggggghhhh.
LOL this sounds so ridiculous but im petrified !
Im beginning to resent my friend so badly !

Can you at least share with your friend that you are nervous? I hate sleeping over at other people's houses because I never get any sleep, I am too anxious - unless I have my own bedroom, preferably with a lock. If I have to share a room with someone, I will get no sleep at all.

It might make you feel better to tell your friend you are a little shy and nervous around new people.

Of course, there is always the option of canceling out. You didn't sign a legal document, I am assuming, binding you to be there. If you really don't want to go, you don't have to. Can you go and make arrangements to leave when you want to, so you don't have to stay overnight? At the same time, if you want to go, and are just feeling anxious about it, then you might want to take this opportunity to grow and build up some immunity to social anxiety. It might feel difficult, but the more you do it presumably the easier it gets.

Why is doing the simplest thing so bloody hard?

I think you're being a bit hard on yourself here. Going out with a group of people whom you only know one person, then sleeping at someone elses house is certainly not a simple thing! I think most people would have some anxiety over doing something like this, let alone an AvPD.

I'm the same about sleeping at peoples houses, I need my own (preferably soundproof) room to get to sleep, because I get so anxoius my snoring will wake everyone up, although whenever I ask in the morning, very few people have heard me snore.

Again I agree with Trence, I'd tell your friend you are a bit shy and nervous around new people, and are anxious about sleeping at another persons house.

I've been trying to remember to tell myself a phrase my counsellor told me recently which makes sense. Just because you're nervous as hell about something, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad at it.

well, i went & pretty much everything turned out ok, it was something i had to do for peace of mind.
apart from the fact that i could not sleep!
i find that because im so overly concerned about ppl liking me etc i try really hard in social situations and everyone seems quite boring & its a bit of a let down. Im slowly learning that i can actually be just as fun and interesting as everyone else if i just control the nerves...