I lost my dream job today :-(

Maybe they hired you just to be the "hatchet man" and get rid of people they didn't want around. Now that you've done their dirty work for them, they don't need you anymore, so they found an excuse to get rid of you, and they can still look like the Nice Guys to the staff. It's very clever of them, really.

A psychiatrist is an MD who can prescribe medications. A psychologist cannot prescribe medications, but can refer you to an MD who can.

I have very limited experience with this, so others will have better information. When I was 24 I went to see a psychiatrist. He was very clinical and cold, didn't give much feedback and looked at his watch all the time. I stopped seeing him. Last year I finally got to see a psychotherapist who specializes in trauma therapy, and that helped me enormously. She was very compassionate and interactive, and her therapy style included psychodynamic/psychoanalytical thinking, cognitive behaviour therapy skills, and EMDR. If my experience is at all universal, I'd recommend finding a good psychotherapist.

Unfortunately, if you are fired within your probationary period, typically 3 mos, you have no legal recourse. They don't even have to explain themselves.

My husband works in the corporate world, as did I for a long time. It is a terrible thing to lose your job, even when there's no mental health-related worry.

First of all, your mental health is a priority, but so is finding another job. Might I suggest short term contract work, if your field allows for that.

Bear in mind, and this is crucial: In a company where there is alot of hiring and firing going on, there is no security anywhere for anyone, really. These are terrible environments to be in for that reason. It gets very cutthroat and grim as everyone tries to squeeze under the same rock. Be glad you're not under the rock with them.

Basically what you were told was the standard "it wasn't a good fit." Use that line when you interview, and smile slightly when you say it. Say that the company is in a transitional period right now (never, never badmouth past employers), and while they hired you and you enjoyed your experience there, ultimately it was not a direction you could go in with them.

Nice, foggy corporate-ese.

Doesn't work well with others? Explain that you are a very motivated, self-directed person. Not big on conversation? You're task-focused.

Get your resume out yesterday. Do not be afraid to list your last job. Do not go in defeated. You have a career, you are proud of your accomplishments. This was not a defeat, it was an experience, an opportunity you learned from, and you were glad of it. Think of a reason why; the industry exposure, the kind of corporate heirarchy -- something positive.

As to speaking with the owners again, I strongly, strongly discourage you from doing that. Word travels. If you need someone to tell you what's wrong with you, hire a doctor. That's why there's doctor-patient confidentiality. As far as speaking with the previous owners or colleagues if you meet them socially or have to meet with them for some other reason, be glad to see them, polite, and brief. I cannot tell you how many times this attitude has paid off for my husband. You do not want anyone to notice anything irregular about your behaviour that can be packaged up as a piece of office gossip. Even better, behaving admirably now translates to recommendations for other jobs and potential re-hiring down the road.

You may already know all this; considering what a shock termination can be, I didn't want to take a chance. My husband's current employer is also undergoing a "time of transition." We sympathize....good luck to you.

Alethiea wrote:As to speaking with the owners again, I strongly, strongly discourage you from doing that. Word travels. If you need someone to tell you what's wrong with you, hire a doctor.

Maybe you misunderstood what I was syaing,

I was going in to meet with the owners again, becasue A: one owner loved the work I was doing, was pleased with the numbers and my energy on the floor, didn't care that a couple of long time employees had a problem with me, actually told me that he liked the fact they were "complaigning" meant I was doing my job!

Problem was they were complaining to another owner who is part of the oporations end, he got tired of hearing the 2-3 employees complaign and decided it would be easier to let me go, understand it wasn't a daily occurance they complaigned only a few times on the exact same topics.

The problem was that the one owner needed to address payroll issues and walked the floor with me and found out there were many overpaid, and unecessart positions so he had me eliminate many positions and a few employees and the replace those with a less hourly paid employee. I was the lynch man, but that's goes with any seniior management position. The complaining employees were friends of some that were termed and since then had ill feelings towards me, which led to complaints and sort of a conspiracy to get me axed.

When I went in to pick up my check the owner that fired me, took down my number and left the door open to bring me back at a different capacity to utilize my strengths, I have yet to recieve that phone call, and thinking about heading in tomorrow to talk to him about it, if for any other reason to get closure.

It really hurts loosing a job you loved which paid you more then you've even earned in 16 years in the career.



OBTW, I went to see a Psychiotrist, who dignosed me as BiPolar with several phobeas including Social / AVD, and he found it very interesting that someone like myself with these symptoms would choose a career in this line of work.

OBTW, that was me in the above post, forgot to log in.

Oh, and my Dr. just started me on Lamictal, we'll see if this helps.