Do you ever feel that you harm others by talking too much?

or by spending an exceedingly llong amount of time with them? I'm talking years but it could even be as short as a few hours. like, some how your different way of thinking has a negative effect on them? like- my dad, he's autistic and he talks really loud. and i used to be the same way i think and i just feel like- some how my perspective throws people off? does that resonate with any of you guys? :S I just keep feeling like I'm changing and- idk who i am anymore. or at the very least how i come off. but then that's pretty much always been true. . .

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILdBDOPoEDQ

I often feel like i'm harming them just by being around them,so i usually avoid people altogether..

April, I used to feel the same way. I'm so sorry to hear that.


God, though, ever since I came out as mildly narcissistic and got labeled something about that just felt like well, people are going to assume I'm being fake so . . . *is so confused*

amazeded wrote:April, I used to feel the same way. I'm so sorry to hear that.


God, though, ever since I came out as mildly narcissistic and got labeled something about that just felt like well, people are going to assume I'm being fake so . . . *is so confused*

It's ok really,since i often feel the same way about them. And about people assuming things about you, they will always do that regardless of how you act, so i don't think you need to worry about it too much. You can only control your own actions, not theirs.

Thank you for words, April.

The thing about my situation is that I have had psychosis for years but now I think I finally am over it. *knock on wood*

But now that I'm over it I am faced with my Autism, which is compounded by my insanely loud Autistic father's voice. I know that seems to make little sense but I also have hearing-motion synesthesia and the effects of Dad's voice on me are confusing at best. It's like he's so loud and over powering that he stamps out my normal ability to think. I doubt I would find it so destructive if I wasn't already somewhat Autistic myself but since I am, it's like my thoughts AND feelings are forced to accommodate to the sound of his voice. It's quite maddening and I wish I knew what to do about it.

But what's even worse is I fear I can have negative effects on other people by talking to them for long periods as my fathers voice can have a negative effect on me. I don't think it's nearly the same but, off-putting? or something. It just sucketh.

Talking too much without empathy for others or consideration of their needs...can be a problem.
But if there's one thing I have learned from my aspie roomie...is that ANY interaction is more health-giving than snubbing.

There are right and wrong ways to "talk" so the issue is only how to "be" with others in the first place...The "talk" can take many forms..not necessarily verbal.

People have to learn this and practice it...if they are to have any successful human life.
NOBODY HARMS ANYONE by trying to be a decent person. Good rule of thumb.

But false assumptions CAN be very harmful. Ignoring someone because of YOUR fears is abusive.
Autistics can be VERY abusive that way...when they really think they are just keeping things simple.

People need interaction and CARING to live in this world.
They don't need to get rid of objectionable types. Actually they would like to help them not feel so objectionable.

If you are autistic PLEASE keep that in mind. Other people feel as needy and isolated as you so have a heart.
Think about what others need. It will make a HUGE difference if autistic people could just take their basic good will (same as ours) and ACT on it.

It isn't so hard. You will be loved just for trying. You will find out I'm right but you have to break out of that well......autism.....just to try it for a minute.

So please do it, and then do it again, and then do it again.........
Because there's no other way. There is very little successful "medical" intervention for autism.

But there is very little any intervention for a lonely and crazy-isolated "normal" world which is DESPERATE for love and healing and hope.

So start talking. But do it with FEELING!!!!

Np, my father also has aspergers and there were times he got pretty loud and aggressive too so i know what you mean! It used to scare me a lot when i was a child and even now i really dislike it when people yell or fight. I think it's best you talk to him about this, especially if you have another condition. Best of luck!