by daddyivorg » Thu Apr 17, 2014 8:42 am
The problem with Autism is that it cannot be proved to exist. It cannot be proved that any individual "has it" or indeed prove what "it" is and how one "gets" "it". That's because people are sceptical, especialy if they perceive that another individual is attempting to use a syndrome, ology, ism or whatever as a label so as to escape censure and garner sympathy.
I did the AQ test, the EQ test and the IQ test and all the rest. If I'd been doing a degree I'd have gotten a first. But my parents, who I hadn't seen for 17 years because I'd isolated myself after a trauma, were very sceptical. That is until they took the tests and we found out (they are 77 and 80hat we are autistic. HFA apparently although my dad looks aspergerish to me. I hadn't seen him for so long that all I remembered was his face. I'd forgotten his mannerisms. He's Autistic and so is my brother, who has bipolar, my sister probably is, her husband and four kids are. My five kids ook like they are (four boys one girl).
The thing is when I was a young man we'd all go there for Xmas. We'd play Trivial Pursuit and my dad would win every time because he's memorised the answers. But we thought nothing of it. My dad is a linguist, a lawyer, and has a phenomenal memory. He has the maturity of a twelve year old. i am the same as my dad but have two more degrees than him and write poetry and computer code and stuff. But I have no foreign languages. My sister is good at french and latin, my dad russian. My youngest brother seems normative. Out of 23 of us in my immediate family and in laws most of the males are autistic and of the related females half.
But when people who have the symptoms are sceptical (like I was) it is hardly surprising that people are deniers. My dad is. He won't have it.
The problem I find is the anxiety, occasional panic, depression, anger and gullibility/trust/being taken advantage of. It is definitely a disability. If I'd known my true self thirty years ago my life would have been different. I have known for about two months and my behaviour is improved. I still get anxious but don't try to pin it onto something now. I try to speak to someone about it. I still get the obsessive single subject circulating thoughts (worry) but just play chess now.
When I got divorced 18 years ago it traumatised me completely. I hid for 17 years from family and friends. I didn't even know why I did it. I was scared, panicing, stomach issues, depression etc. I sought help from the doctor and got nothing. If autism is as prevalent as it seems to be you would have thought that the NHS database would be able to automatically filter out people who should perhaps take the Aq test.
Just because something is not treatable and so does not generate income should not be a reason to ignore it.
Self awareness is fundamental if suffering from any form of neurological or psychological issue. Especially if it results in psycho social issues.