Came on a little bit too strong..

So I'm in my last year of high school and in 7 weeks time it'll be the end of school. I've been applying to sixth forms and I found out this other girl who I've spoken to a few times has got into the same place as me. I thought maybe we should be friends.

She said she was really happy that we were both in, she found out first that she had a place and when I told her I had a place too, she hugged me, I wasn't expecting it so it scared me.

I spoke to her on Facebook and asked her for her phone number, we began texting and I think I came on too strong, I actually asked her to be my friend.. I shouldn't have done that, right? I messaged her 3 days running about the college we were both in. So I must have come across a bit obsessive too. I've actually deleted her number now to stop myself talking to her.

I asked if she's want to meet up outside of school and she said it sounded good. But I don't know if she's just feeling sorry for me.

I haven't made a new friend for the past 3 years so not only am I naturally not good at it, I haven't made a friend in ages.

She's said that I'm weird but she said she doesn't mind. I've apologised to her for being over the top but she said it was okay and I had no reason to apologise. Yet I know she must find me a bit of a pest, and I'm getting paranoid about coming on too strong.

How can I become friends with her without having to admit my Aspergers? Or would mentioning it help with the situation?

Just tell her you have Aspergers. It'll solve a lot for her. She'll google it, read all about it, and be like "ooh, that's why he does that." I've had lots of friends tell me they were glad I shared with them, because before they didn't understand why I did a lot of the things I do.

Or just tell her you need her to tell you when you're being too obsessive or too weird, because you don't have a sensor like everybody else. Things might be uncomfortable for a minute, but it'll be worth it if she knows how you tick.

You're right! I should just tell her I guess. Thank you!

I can relate to this a lot, I usually apologise in advance for that sort of thing, and leave everyone two weeks to reply before I say anything else to them. If they don't reply then it's obvious they didn't deem what I said replyable or don't want to talk or whatever, but often the people (person) I most like will eventually.

After the two weeks I'll have likely forgotten about (or gotten over) the need to talk to them and it's all OK, and if someone happens I want to tell them about I will and it may start a new conversation or something, without getting "paranoid about coming on too strong", which otherwise I would.

Before that I'd end up getting an attachment to somebody, texting daily or whatever and trying various conversation starters that most likely made me come across as obsessive and very weird.

It doesnt sound that bad to me (your behaviour that is). I've been more "obsessive" with people I've wanted to sleep with in the past and got away with it. Anyway, you may as well get all your weirdness out now and tell her as well imo as she "needs" you as well (i.e. people feel less insecure if they know someone when they start uni). I also imagine that for most people it's easier to meet/make new friends when you already have a friend as well - due to the fact that you're not quite as vulnerable/needy which people can sense.

I don't have a crystal ball of course, but it may well be that she outgrows you as she starts to make other friends and classmates. When you start uni I would take any opportunity you can get to widen your circle a little bit so you aren't "dependant" on her. I would also try to remember to refrain from taking it personally if it happens that she does move on as you still won't have known her very long.

Good luck with the studies and hope you get your grades in the summer.

Dont know how well you know this individual but its almost never a good idea to admit to having any sort of mental dysfunction; stuff like that has a funny way of biting you in the a$$ later. It would probably be in your best interest to proceed with caution and try not to appear too obsessive as to most, this is a huge turn off; ask me how I know. Give her a little space and allow her to contact you now and again. If she does then you can probably take that as a sign that she is interested in getting to know you, if not, then...

Oh dear, most of you seem to think I should keep it to myself maybe I should keep my distance for a while then, thanks everyone