Ability vs will

People say you can, they say you make your reality.

But it really is not a question of can or can't, but rather will or won't.

If you can, but just won't...

Who can you blame, what to do

I can only blame myself. Noone controls my thoughts, emotions and actions but me.

Who are you?

What is control?

CantThinkOfAny wrote:Who are you?

What is control?

I guess I would be defined by my thoughts, looks and actions. The way I do something, say something or think about something won't be the same as you, so we cannot be the same person.

I knew some identical twins, but you could easily tell them apart. They acted and talked differently even though they looked the same.

control is a tricky one for me. Considering I'm an addict, I had an illusion of no control on my own. I would do things even though I didn't want to. But ovecoming addiction is, in a nutshell, changing your thinking and learning to take control of your thoughts and actions. part of that is "I get upset when you lie to me" instead of saying "you make me upset when you lie to me". When I say I I give myself control over myself, instead of handing it over to you. So I guess for me control is taking responsibility for my thoughts and actions. I used drugs, you didn't make me. I made myself upset so I used, you didn't make me upset and make me use those drugs. That's what control is tfor me, taking responsibility for my own thoughts, feelings and actions.