http://skepchick.org/2013/05/the-fetish-for-dialogue/
This mainly has to with with feminism and atheism, but this is coming from someone who is bicurious. I hate how everyone romanticizes that sitting down and talking to people who put you down will make everything okay, especially if they are bigoted. If both sides willingly want to come to a compromise, that is fine, but I have no intention of ever standing up for or sympathizing with any anybody who calls me a disgusting sinner and seeks to deny me my ability to live how I individually want for any reason. The enabling needs to stop now before more innocent lives are claimed.
If one outright coerces two opposing forces to equally compromise, homosexuals and religious zealots for example, you in this case A) erase all of the torment that homosexuals have been through for simply being built differently and refusing to conform to traditional standards, and B) you deny both sides their autonomy and freedom of association. You will have forced people to give up their ability to fight their own battles. Then again, I once said that if one side is hellbent on keeping another down, then that side doesn't deserve to be themselves. You can't force a bullying victim to stand on equal footing to his bully, you simply cannot.