My Nana and possible Aspergers

Okay, first of all, I know you guys can't give an official diagnosis (We can't get one anyway because nana won't want it or believe it). This is just a confirmation of sorts, I'll like to know in general.
For many years, since I was born and diagnosed with Aspergers, it's been the general belief that my nana on mum's side, suffers from it as well. The fact that AS can be inherited kind of supports this.

-Nana frequently stick to routine in a very rigid way. She always goes to the same hairdresser for twenty years, we do the same thing when she comes for Sundays etc
-She's very resistant to change. If a supermarket changes its packaging, she won 't take it because it's 'different'
-She comes off as quite blunt and tactless, sometimes holding a one-sided conversation while we listen, unable to interrupt much
-She's very curious (nosy in dad's words) and needs to know everything that's going on around her, even if we don't want to.
-She doesn't seem to have much empathy for others, even close friends or family. It comes across as selfishness at times.
-She doesn't always know how to act in conversation and frequently tries to interrupt without actually realising that she is

I don't really want to badmouth my nana. The main problem is that, as many may know, Aspergers has only been recently accepted by the world in general. Back then, people just thought she was being silly or not trying hard enough and she was even punished for any mistakes she made with AS. The fact that my family has put up with her personality as it is for so long may mean that she does quite understand what she's doing and the loss of my Granddad last year seems to have made things worse (mum's opinion, not mine).

So, if anyone can just confirm unoffically. There might be more that I've missed, but those are the main things. Sorry for the long post.

The older you get the more stuck in your ways/cranky one becomes. But if she was always like that there is a good chance she might have it too. By your description it goes a long way towards AS. Pity they didn't diagnose in those days, the syndrome is known since the 19th century it was only formally introduced by dr Asperger in the 50's.

I know it's a real shame that it's fairly recent. Some of the things they punished her for though were quite stupid. For instance, when she was young, Nana used to write with her left hand because it was her 'better' hand. The teacher punished her when she did it and forced her to write with her right, simply because everyone thought it was better to be right-handed. Now she only writes with her right hand.

Actually the main reason I've noticed now is Granddad's death and looking back on my early life because I used to be like that too. I'm a bit better at grasping social things now with some support. Like I said, there might be more as well.

Thanks for the advice, petrossa. Just noticed you're now a supermod. Nice one!

DJM19 wrote: For instance, when she was young, Nana used to write with her left hand because it was her 'better' hand. The teacher punished her when she did it and forced her to write with her right, simply because everyone thought it was better to be right-handed. Now she only writes with her right hand.

Same happened to me, after a while they tied my lefthand behind my back. But i still refused to write righthanded, with as a result i can hardly write legible.

Tnx for the thought, but supermod is only supermore work. I asked for a payrise which i got. 100% of 0.

I'm sorry that happened to you. We live in strange times. Nana is a good person, it's just that, sometimes, her attention-seeking and her behaviour at times drives my family round the bend, but we can't say anything. She's quite set in her beliefs and feels that we need reminding for all our little mistakes, whether they were last week or twenty years ago

Money isn't everything, there's the wonderful work you do and the good feeling you might get from helping others (feel free to disagree however you want)