People on the spectrum using the net to find love

I strongly believe that the net is the most feasible way for people on the spectrum to find love. After all, most people on the spectrum that I've met online met their partners online. The only way I see myself finding a mate these days is by using the internet as it's usually the only way I'm able to feel comfortable enough to initiate convos with people.

I'm currently not looking for love and haven't been for a long time, but if I'm to find love anytime in the future I'm confident that it will involve me meeting someone online. I'm forcing myself not to date someone until I fix my life up. Had I already fixed things, I'm confident that I'd be dating someone that I'd met online right now . . .

Anyway: do you also believe that the net is the easiest way for people on the spectrum to find love? Have you had luck with meeting someone online? Have you tried finding love IRL, but struggled? Etc. etc. etc.

Contribute whatever you like. I await your responses.

I can't really offer any insights. I never had to "look" for anyone, they always came to me.
Online sounds logical, but the sort of comfort you get with some people face to face is hard to find until you go and actually meet people, so i guess it might just take a lot more trial and error. I would also be more cautious when meeting people online - not everyone is what they say they are, from unsafe extremes, to simply exxagerating good features and not mentioning faults.

Online dating has always turned out to be a disaster for me. However, the disasters came prior to my awareness of having Asperger's. So, if I were to date online again my view would be quite different.

mvic wrote:I can't really offer any insights. I never had to "look" for anyone, they always came to me.
Online sounds logical, but the sort of comfort you get with some people face to face is hard to find until you go and actually meet people, so i guess it might just take a lot more trial and error. I would also be more cautious when meeting people online - not everyone is what they say they are, from unsafe extremes, to simply exxagerating good features and not mentioning faults.

I second that. Whilst i can follow your train of thought, no direct interaction, no social issues, it's pretty dicey.

When I was single social networking sites offered a valuable way of developing a relationship (sublte flirting really) with someone to the point where you feel like you could approach them if you saw them in "real life".

I wouldnt use it blindly personally though (i.e. if I hadnt already seen them in person at some point and know they have all their fingers and toes etc) and if I did I imagine you'd have to pretend that you really ARE interested in getting to know them else it will come across as follows:

Hey, I like your picture, now please just show me your boobs.

That said, I can see how, for many people, online spaces can offer valuable introductions. I would view it a tool /vessel to help you but dont let it be your only method.