It can mean quite much. You dont get many unspoken rules.Aspies can often be gullible and thats often because they can decipher other peoples mental states or socalled Theory of Mind.
But I made my rule: If you are just a teenager and youre socially immature thne you are simply immature.
But if you have AS its something little different. Its not just "immaturity" cause thats a relative concept.
Youre maybe "immature" relative to normal people, but not to most AS people and these problems will anyway usually
never disappear. YOu always had these problems. You dont develop fast or so much as aother do. Your social skills is somewhat static you can say (but many improve), but its anyway far more static that normal people.
Then youre not immature, cause "immature" is relative to mature and youre never gonna be so mature socially. Its only relative to normal people. Relative to other AS or mental issiues-people youre just normal and not "immature"
What does "immature" mean? Often its a lack experience, knwoledge or understanding.
But AS is not "immaturity" and I think its very unfair to just call AS people "immature", "childish" or "cold", "selfish", "rude"
Instead Ive would call them handicapped or have a disorder. Because thats what it is. The other adjectives is too simple and doesnt sound very agreeable or understanding. If you call AS people such you dont seem to understand how difficult it is and the fact that NOBODY chooses to have AS unless you could choose how the foster would develop before you even existed!!!!!
It doesnt really matter so much if youre "immature" because of AS. WHY? YOu didnt choose it therefore you dont have take any blame, so in fact in my head you could even be extremely socially mature. Doesnt matter so much to me. Those who are ex socially mature didnt choose it either, they were born with the abilities and lucky genes.
Should you be praised just for being lucky? Being despised for being unlucky? FU**ING fair and kind? NO? Yes? NO
In that sense its like this: A man work very hard and earn a half a million a year. Another man is just lucky and win half a million
in a BIG competition which just requires sending in something. Who should be most praised? The one who was just lucky or the one who worked hard?
AS people often work hard to try to socialize but yet they dont manage it very well. BUT they work their ass off sometimes.
Other people are just borned with the abilities and was borned in a lucky way.
WHO work the most? I dont say that people who borned with the social abilities dont have them or thats its bad they have them.
But nobody chooses to be born with or without social abilities. I dont think you should be credited or discredited for just being unlucky.
You didnt choose it, you probably dont even want it and maybe work your ass off to get rid of it.
Question: Can you be discredited or credited for being lucky or unlucky? I mean luck has in this case ABSOLUTELY NO EFFORT.
You dont need a nanogram of effort to be borned with social abilities. You may need hundreds of tons of effort if you have AS and try to cope with it.
Who works hardest? Who choosed anything? Nobody choosed. But the AS people actually CHOOSED to work hard with social issues and the other didnt cause they ther just took it naturally with the gifts from the nature so they were just LUCKY.
luck or unluck......
No other thing said in black and white terms to get the point ahead.
I also made another AS rule:
Im not "immature", Im not "gullible", Im not "egocentric", Im not "selfish", Im not a "bad" person, I dont have "base" humour,
I dont have "poor empathy", Im not "socially naive"
If you hade any of those issues like poor empathy ann you didnt have AS then its more simple and you could desribe somebody as
just egocentric.
If you had AS and have social trouble then its just a handicap youre born with.
If youre a teenager without AS and have huge social trouble because you lack experience and knowledge, then I would its easier to call you naive or just inexperienced. But AS is not simply lack of experience, not lack of knowledge and not lack understanding in a normal sense at least.
The AS difficulties have far different cause: ASpies have a different brain, theyre wired up in a different way.
If you have social trouble, poor empathy and you have have abnormal brain issues then it might be easier.
But IF you have brain issues then its something else I would say........
Im just aspergic, its that fu**ing simpe. The third rule I made is that if people call me any of those adjectives and dont never ever get I have AS and never choosed, then I wont use any time with those persons.
Im gonna ignore any who explain my difficulties in a simple, primitive and mainstream way.
I could also think that those simple adjectives are for everybody who are just ignorant of AS and dont have a clue of what it is, understand it or have any sympathy I would say. Therefore those adjectives are irrelevant to me in some sense.
Think about it all aspies and dont be ashamed because you were just borned in a little unlucky or different way. No reason to take any blame for anything UNLESS you dont do anything to cope with it. You should always try to cope of course, but the things you simply cant understand?.... It doesnt matter to me, cause its not a choice, never was and never gonna be.
Also Apsies dont seldom have exceptional abilities which are very good to have and can accomplish great things which others cant. Its many positive aspects with AS also yes.
Im not anyway gonna accept that Im just socially handicapped, Im gonna try get rid of it and then I could have been really really praised up in the skies for actually putting any EFFORT in it while other people without AS manage socially stuff without any effort. Now I can socialize almost at the same level, BUT I put huge amounts of EFFORT in contrast to all the other people.
Okay I dont mean that people which are socially mature dont put any effort and I dont mean people who actually work with their social life doesnt deserve credit of course. But Aspies who manage the social life okay should have even more credit, cause it requires much more effort and work to succed.
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