Is he Aspbergers

I recently ended a relationship with a 50 yr old man and I've been trying to sort out somethings that haven't made sense.
I was reading about autism like tendencies that lead me to here.
If anyone would care to comment on these traits he has:

Socially awkard; no close friends has work aquantances but able to connect or possibly shy.
Unable to connect with others emotionally or intimately.
Talks in very superficial terms even with those closest to him.
High IQ, Enginner.
Preoccupied with reading scientific journals, money magazines.
Impulsive.
Difficulty finishing projects.
Unable to maintain close relationship. .married 4 times, one live in gf.
Craves the highs of intense sports. Rock climbing, surfing etc.
Unable to reciprocate in a relationship. .compromise, empathy, compassion, communication.
Enjoys making child like voices and can talk incessantly non stop at times.
Very flat emotions. . Smiles all the time even when angry.
Odd. . quirky.
Arrogant at times.
Doesn't seem to understand social situations or que's.
Extremely passive aggressive

Any and all input welcome.

I'm 6 years older, i don't do child voices and i have a fear of heights. For the rest you could be talking about me.

i can only post my knowledge of aspergers...

Some of the stuff you posted is like wham, Enginnering, three generations on my husbands side all with aspergers.
Dosen't undrerstand social situations or que's... Heck yea, my husband of 18 years still dosen't see the things that everyone else does.
Odd, quirky.. OHH yea

It all kind of depend on how they were raised.
My sister-in-law moved to france with her boyfriend who has asperger's. Amazing computer programmer, but they don't turn on the fridge because he says its too loud, and he has too many phobias too even mention.

My advice is ask him. At one time or another something might have been brought up.
But if you really ended it, you woudn't care, but you seem to.
I always joke with my husband Mike, your like a fungus, you grow on me

I can tell you one think for sure, I've never met nicer people in my life, no matter how odd or quirky they are.
ROBIN

Thank you for the responses!
Yes . . he was extremely kind.
It was he who ended the relationship.
Much like he has with the other relationships. . no notice. . no explanation.
It was for the best.

Not trying to find fault. .just trying to understand what happened.
As much as cared for him I often felt there was something I was missing.

No phobias. .though ultra, ultra conservative and rigid about his ideals.
No repititious behaviours either. . .other than the child like voices he knows annoys everyone and doesn't seem to care.

Reinventmyself wrote:Thank you for the responses!
No phobias. .though ultra, ultra conservative and rigid about his ideals.
No repititious behaviours either. . .other than the child like voices he knows annoys everyone and doesn't seem to care.

Again like me. Although i'd like to think that ultra-conservative is actually realism. All these floaty idea's from socialists, environmentalists, foreign aid, and the like are just unreal. Humans are just another mammal and behave like them, will continue to behave like them till some miracle of evolution makes us less like a mammal.

Maybe he's my long lost brother

Interested as I read on throughout the site.

He seemed the think everything had answer if you could put it on a spread sheet.
Even a personality issue I was having at work he was adament that I needed to perform a `process review' in order to resolve it. To me it was more of an HR issue and not something that had a mathematical solution to it. But he wouldn't listen to my point of view. Being of 'superior intellect' his way was the only right way.
At times I offered the `agree to disagree' notion and he would only retreat angrily seeing he couldn't bully me into his way of the thinking.

He had a very black and white way of looking at things and was intollerant of others (mine) opinions.

Important decisions he needed to make an involved a lengthy cost analysis report. .
I would just write it off to me being female and by nature making decisions more emotionally based.

Oh. . and the fact that he showed me several homes that he wanted us to move into that were way out in rural isolated areas. . Coincidence?

coincidence again, that's me all over. Except for decision making. I make snap decisions. But intolerant of others opinions, sure. They are usually wrong and that's annoying. And i do have a superior intellect to the larger part of people i talk to. That's not my doing, doesn't make ME superior. I didn't create it. I was born with it, and often it's more of a handicap then a blessing. But you can't turn it of.

I love rural settings. I believe this stems from AS's problems with too much sensory input. A big city freaks me out. I guess it did him too.