What is it like when ppl with Asperger's get together?

I have thought and thought about it, and I can't remember ever meeting anyone else with Asperger's. I can't even think of anyone remotely similar to me in terms of... "quirkiness" is the word I will go for. A friend has agreed that she has never met anyone quite like me. (How nice to now know this is not the case!)

So then I picture 20 of me in a room together and it sounds intense!

And my question: What is it like when people with Asperger's get together? Is there actually something unique going on there? A bunch of people over-explaining, going in endless circles and/or tangent to tangent to tangent? Or am I just being ridiculous?

Like with any other people out there, it depends on their personality. Some people click well together, others don't.

But the few times I have had to work with other people with AS, there has been a surprising amount of lack of communication, and a very good understanding of the method of getting to the goal without anything but small gestures. I personally found it extremely efficient to work with other people with AS.

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So then I picture 20 of me in a room together and it sounds intense!

This line made me laugh out loud for some reason! Not in a bad way or anything, but in like a cartoon comedy kinda way. (Then I pictured 20 peter griffins in a room, then I pictured neo from the 2nd matrix movie where he is on like 200 tv screens in that white room))

I have a good friend who I am pretty sure is an aspie, and my youngest brother who may be one too. I get along really really well with my youngest brother (17y/o), he's kinda like a little copy of me. My good friend on the other hand I get along with, but we piss each other off with stupid piddly sh!t, despite our likenesses and friendship. But I see "my"(aspie) qualities in both of them. .

Personality, as previouslky stated, is definitely a factor. Its hard to say. The good friend who probably has AS has the "rambling with no room for interjection" problem and it irritates me sometimes, but I can't let it bother me cuz I do the same damn thing, except I am aware of it and do my best to try to allow spaces where one can intervene even though I may want to continue talking.... Damn, AS is complicated, lol, is this why aspies all have above-average intelligence, to be able to deal with it?

I can tell you what it was like the first time that I attended a"families of aspies' function with my son[diagnosed AS. i am undiagnosed]It was hosted by a family with a [then] 13 year old son with AS, who appears to have inherited his unique wiring from his father, an engineer for Lockheed -Martin. Their home was HUGE [nearly 10,000 sq. feet] and the mother of the boy was very warm and hospitable [I tend to become very intimidated by super successful people] Approximatly 25 or 30 kids and maybe 20 parents were in attendance. The kids were widely dispersed on the spectrum.some of them quiet "little proffesors, while some could not even speak. After L.J.[then 13] grabbed a soft drink and a snack, we convinced him to go check out the model trains belonging to the host families son.
After a few minutes, i did what i always have. I checked to see if my son was doing alright. he was absorbed in the different trains. Feeling reassured, I decided to make sure that the other kids were doing alright. it was then that I noticed pretty much all of the other moms were doing the same thing and it was almost as though we all sighed a collective sigh of relief.
While the kids played, the parents visited. some of the adults were AS themselves, some not. but let me tell you, EVERYONE pretty much agreed that this was the first time they had not felt alone.
tHe kids hung out for a few hours [some upstairs, some down, some in the backyard] and when we were driving home Afterwards, my husband noted that he had never seen a group of kids together before without even one occurence of disagreement or misunderstanding[there were a few meltdowns, but the kids were all alright with that].When i agreed and noted that i had never seen kids considered "normal' getting along so well, my son said 'well, of course not. it's the 'normal'kids who have the real social problems, not us. We're not the ones who need the stupid social rules'. He also felt it was one of the best days of his life.
That evening, when speaking to other parents online, they reported pretty much the same response from their kids. We only attended a few more functions before my son became ill and just became involved with the group again a few months ago. It is difficult to get everyone together because some of us are spread apart by hundreds of miles and schedules are so busy, but we are glad to be part of it once more.
anyway, for our children who are AS, getting together as a group has been heaven.

vickivicki wrote:I can tell you what it was like the first time that I attended a"families of aspies' function with my son[diagnosed AS. i am undiagnosed]It was hosted by a family with a [then] 13 year old son with AS, who appears to have inherited his unique wiring from his father, an engineer for Lockheed -Martin. Their home was HUGE [nearly 10,000 sq. feet] and the mother of the boy was very warm and hospitable [I tend to become very intimidated by super successful people] Approximatly 25 or 30 kids and maybe 20 parents were in attendance. The kids were widely dispersed on the spectrum.some of them quiet "little proffesors, while some could not even speak. After L.J.[then 13] grabbed a soft drink and a snack, we convinced him to go check out the model trains belonging to the host families son.
After a few minutes, i did what i always have. I checked to see if my son was doing alright. he was absorbed in the different trains. Feeling reassured, I decided to make sure that the other kids were doing alright. it was then that I noticed pretty much all of the other moms were doing the same thing and it was almost as though we all sighed a collective sigh of relief.
While the kids played, the parents visited. some of the adults were AS themselves, some not. but let me tell you, EVERYONE pretty much agreed that this was the first time they had not felt alone.
tHe kids hung out for a few hours [some upstairs, some down, some in the backyard] and when we were driving home Afterwards, my husband noted that he had never seen a group of kids together before without even one occurence of disagreement or misunderstanding[there were a few meltdowns, but the kids were all alright with that].When i agreed and noted that i had never seen kids considered "normal' getting along so well, my son said 'well, of course not. it's the 'normal'kids who have the real social problems, not us. We're not the ones who need the stupid social rules'. He also felt it was one of the best days of his life.
That evening, when speaking to other parents online, they reported pretty much the same response from their kids. We only attended a few more functions before my son became ill and just became involved with the group again a few months ago. It is difficult to get everyone together because some of us are spread apart by hundreds of miles and schedules are so busy, but we are glad to be part of it once more.
anyway, for our children who are AS, getting together as a group has been heaven.

All I can say is wow. I wish I experienced that. I have been around other..er...unusual people and it was always great. I had a sense of belonging. However, it never lasts for more than a few hours. They were more part of the "gifted" people but were otherwise normal so while we did have some similarities, it the end they didn't matter.

LOL, 20 aspies in a room, and only 4 corners for them to hide in :-}

I go to an ADHD / aspergers support group, and at first I found it very hard to open up - but over the course of a couple of months I became more able to recount my experiences and issues.

This is quite good for newcomers in being able to relate to something I say - I can be open and honest about the things i've been through, rather than them being "on the spot" and one person broke down in tears after half an hour, having found people in exactly the same position at them - and feeling "accepted" and not so alone any more.

Being able to write on this forum has helped a lot too !

ADHD and aspergers have very close similarities in day to day life - except the aspies want to hide away and shun contact, and the ADHD mob are bouncing off the walls demanding attention "NOW".

I have AS (diagnosed) and I also have 3 friends with AS and one friend with high functioning autism.
I get on very well with aspies in general, I find myself drawn to them. Me and my friends get on very well, but of course it doesn't come without its problems. They all have an AS trait that I find annoying, and they probably feel the same way about me. My best friend drives me round the bend sometimes with his funny ways, but that doesn't mean I don't love him to bits because I do

I have met many other aspies and auties and I generally got on with them, except for one who I found to be very unlikable. I was civil with him and even gave him a chance once I left school and had conversations on facebook with him, I gave up though because he made me want to tear my hair out, not because of his AS traits, but his personality is not compatible with mine. The rest of the aspies and auties were fine though and were usually my friend or acquaintance.

I recognise your username (Pan paniscus)- it's the latin name for the bonobo. Pan troglodytes is of course the chimpanzee.

vickivicki wrote:When i agreed and noted that i had never seen kids considered "normal' getting along so well, my son said 'well, of course not. it's the 'normal'kids who have the real social problems, not us. We're not the ones who need the stupid social rules'. He also felt it was one of the best days of his life.

That is so very true what he said. I think all social, shallow rules that exists is making people beeing unnatural in their behavior. So stiff they are most people that isnt older then like 50-60+. So even though im only 33 i mostly enjoying beeing with old people except from my partner and son of course.

Nothing special.