Obsession I need help with! Help!

nevermind

to help you get her out of your head, you should first realise that friendships are not meant to last forever. People move on from others, and that's simply a fact of life. You must also consider the fact that people are always growing up and their opinions about the world and those in it (and those in their life) can easily change. You should not lament the fact that you are no longer in contact with her. Rather, you must celebrate all that you have learned from your past friendship with her, but now your eyes must look forward. You have more people to meet and learn things from, and there are people who have things to laern from you too.

Nothing we do in life is ever wasted, but please NEVER lament the past. We are on a constant journey forward.

Kevin

Hi,

Yes I think it is something that you have to learn and move on from. You found someone you could communicate with and it is hard when they leave your life for whatever reason. The fact that you found someone with whom you could share simply proves that you have this capacity and can find someone else.

I think there is one person above all with whom I share private things and I know how hard it would be if that was taken away from me. It is so hard to open up and find someone on our level so when we do, we cling to them.

You will make a new friend
xx

I have someone I share my views on life with. She's not much of a thinker but she can listen and approve. I however am reticent of telling her personal...aspects of my life. She doesn't judge and seems interested in what I have to say. I befriend her one step at a time because I know how I can become when I fully trust someone. I'm slowly implying the implications of a friendship with me would have and at the end, I'm going to let her choose whether she wants to or not.

I once had somebody I told all my secrets too. It lasted one year. She then suggested I'm too needy, clingy and too obsessive and that she can't stand to be my friend anymore. I guess her pity ran out. She did have a point though...thinking back I can't believe I acted how I did.

Point is, be careful who you trust.

nevermind

topaz wrote:Hi,

The fact that you found someone with whom you could share simply proves that you have this capacity and can find someone else.



You will make a new friend
xx

What skill are you referring to exactly? The skill of exhausting a friend? Or the skill of obsessing about myself and analysing myself and wasting time on it?

No problem a "friend", is the last thing I want! I'd rather have a therapist!