by SomethingWithin » Mon Jul 30, 2018 3:52 am
ADD/ADHD are definitely separate though frequently co-morbid conditions that can occur with or without ASD, as well as being separate conditions from each other. ADD is essentially an attention disorder: perhaps one has difficulties staying focused on a topic/subject or finds they must jump around from one to another often. There can be some behavioral issues with this as well since a side of that inattention can spawn with an inability to properly follow or remember directions. ADHD is a step up from that: you feel a constant need to move, like you have energy to burn and are never really relaxed. ADHD kids often have difficulties with sleeping and can often be bedwetters as a result of these issues, though not always. Similar, but not quite related is Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) which is somewhat like ADD but is recognized by persistent defiant behavior. All three can lead to argumentativeness so it can be hard to tell them a part.
However, these can co-exist with ASD, in which case you could see some crossovers. For example, instead of inattentive to everything, you may only be inattentive to things that don't interest you. This defined me growing up, I had ADHD with probably AS. I had special interests and nothing else really held my attention or interest very long.
As for the rest of your post, yes you can be asocial and still lonely and unhappy. There's many factors that can contribute to this, such as depression, being "different" or a "nerd" compared to others, or god forbid, abuse reasons just to name a few common sources. PDD/NOS essentially means that one has characteristics of an ASD but perhaps is a little off a proper diagnosis to be properly placed. It can be a worse or better diagnosis depending on the person. There is no real ranking for PDD/NOS afaik, it just depends on whether one is on the upper or lower end of symptoms. It's possible to have a mix of multiple ASD symptoms such that one's proper place cannot be placed. This is similar to Fibromyalgia. Fibromylagia really isn't a diagnosis, it basically just means, "yes there is an issue but we [doctors] are not quite what it is or where to place you".