Helping my girlfriend with Aspergers

My girlfriend has been diagnosed with Aspergers about a month ago and recently she hasn’t been that talkative. Before I met her she was almost raped by a student at her old school and has been bullied for the majority of her life. She tells me that I have been the only one that listens to her and that I have saved her from committing suicide because I came into her life at the right time. Anyways, we both love each other very much and talk about the future quite frequently. When I first meet her she was very depressed and would often self harm and says things alone the line of, I hate myself or, no one should ever date me. She would also have flashbacks to the time when she was abused. When she would snap out of her flashbacks she would say hurtful things to me because she was scared and afraid, or she would start to self harm. My question is how do I better take care of her. Every time she self harms, talks bad about herself, or says hurtful things to me it gives me anxiety and makes me scared. I care about her very much and all I want her her is for her to be happy.

Another issue is that since she is in school and I am not, we can only see each other once a week. When I am with her though she is on her phone a lot. I don't have any worries of her cheating on me because she tells me and shows me what she is doing (mostly on Facebook looking at her feed, Instagram or snapchat). I was wondering if anyone knew how to deal with that or could help me in anyway.
Best Regards,
Dak

my ex-girlfriend has schizophrenia. try as i might, there was nothing that i could do to help her. indeed, all i achieved was to make her schizophrenia the focus of our relationship. this was one of the reasons that the relationship failed. you can't fix people and if you try, they'll end up resenting it and you too. so, by all means listen to her and offer her whatever advice you can. but don't try to fix her. possibly the best you can do is to try to distract her as much as you can from her problems, rather than drawing her attention to them.

as for the mobile phone issue, many people now seem to be very pre-occupied with getting their tech fixes. you might try pointing out to her that you're able to spend very little time with her each week and ask her to switch her mobile phone off during that time. but, beyond that, this may just be one of those things that you have to put up with.

She must have some creative hobbies to express her feelings and to convert negative thoughts into constructive stuff, such as playing an instrument, painting, writing her thoughts, this will get her a better perspective of herself.

When she is deep in the negative realm, she is going to be self-centered, and her memory will be selective, it is hard to make her see positively. Outdoor activity will help.