Should i see a professional?

Hello

First of all I'm new on this page and I just came here looking for help and advice but not for an actual diagnosis.

So now to the actual topic. I'm a teenage girl and I think I might have asperger's syndrome since my older brother has been diagnosed as one and my younger brother is in the process of being diagnosed. My passed father was most likely an asperger himself but I can't be sure since he died when I was still young.

I'm similar to my brothers and show the extremely similar behavior patterns as them. Me and my siblings have always had problems going to school. School is starting for me in 2 weeks and dread the thought of that. Every single school year I miss alot of school because I get really anxious in the mornings before I leave or in the middle of the school day I get very anxious and have meltdowns, sometimes I don't even know what I'm anxious about. The only reason I haven't had to repeat a year is that I have great grades because I'm not stupid (even though I'm not that great at doing things with my own hands like in art or crafts class and also not that spectacular in PE, same goes for my brothers). Anxiety is a big big part of my life, it probably comes from my lack of social skills and me making huge deals and problems in my mind out of the smallest problems/issues. When I'm nervous I play with a magnet on my phone case, bite the skin that's next to my fingernails and walk back and forth but the 2 first ones, especially the second one are slowly becoming an every day habit.
I've never had alot of friends, right now I have two friends and one of them is an on and off friendship anyway because of the way I act and behave. Alot of the times i enjoy being alone though. I don't like when people touch me and specific noises. I have problems being emotional and bonding with people which makes others think I don't really want to be friends with them. I'm sensitive to light. I also feel really uncomfortable keeping eye contact, especially with people I'm not used to being around. I'm very awkward and I don't know how to keep a conversation going.
I get agressive, mad, frustrated and triggered very often also over the smallest things. I can't control my emotions. When I'm mad I sometimes break things, hurt my family members or more commonly myself. Main reasons why I usually get mad is that i cannot multitask or work under pressure and so anything distracting while I'm doing something might trigger me because I'm also a perfectionist, when I make a mistake which will frustrate me and I also cannot take criticism. I feel like a pretty big ego and someone not respecting me will make me mad.
I'm not interested in lots of things. My interest are narrow. I am obsessed with my cat, these anime girls from one idol show along with their music but I'm not interested in the show itself, memes, listening to music (that's more of a habit though) and Minecraft. If you know Minecraft I only like the creative mode in which I can build anything and everything. When I play Minecraft I have this one village I found and fixed. I keep building the same exact houses again and again, once in a while also a fields for the villagers to get food from, oh and of course schools. Every and each house must be with a bed, a carpet, a torch and this yellow glowing block ontop of the house so when I decide to count the houses I'll know if I've counted it or not by removing the block. I should have hundreds of houses by now. I also like categorizing things or people.
I'm picky with everything I eat and I don't eat dairy products, anything too crunchy or when the foods on my plate are touching each other (I have this plastic sectioned kid's plate for that problem though and I love it). I don't like alot of foods. I pretty much eat the same foods all the time. My favourite foods are green onions, a can of kidney beans, the skin from a grilled chicken and oven cooked salmon.
A few times in a year I have these episodes when I feel depressed and suicidal. This started from an early age like 7 or 8, so basically when I started school.

I think this is it. The reason my mom hasn't done anything is probably because asperger's syndrome isn't that common in females and she guesses it's just a part of puberty. I don't know if I should talk to my mom to see a psychologist/psychiatrist to seek help or not, even though I feel like I'm not able to live my life properly because of the way I am. Often I do think about the future and what I'm going to do since pretty much most of the time I do think I'm a disappointment and a social failure and misfit. If I should, how to do it? I've never talked to my mom about these emotions or problems before because I feel uncomfortable doing this kind of things.

Sorry if my writing seems like a mess, English is not my first language.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

yes.

i'll add a bit to this. you clearly have questions that need answering, and this would likely be the best way to achieve that end.

You should broaden your range of interests. You have to dedicate time in activities which are pleasurable to you, including expressive and creative stuff, like writing and playing an instrument. This wont solve all your social problems but will increase your self esteem and create commun ground with people involved in those activities and that will improve socialization.