I think my son has aspergers.

Hi,I'm new here.
I have thought there was something "different" about my son since a young age.I have been to the doctor,who said it could be either ADHD,ASD,or sensory processing.she has sent off letters from myself and my son's school to assess what it could be.but since talking to the doctor I have googled ASD,and it really seems to me that my son may have aspergers.
I just wanted to see what people with children with aspergers,or people who themself have aspergers think?

My son didn't say his first word until he was 1 and a half,but as soon as he learnt to talk there was no stopping him.
he asks question after question (quite often repeating what I'm saying while im saying it it)
when he is not asking questions he will talk constantly,and when he's not talking he will quite often make a high pitched squealing/shrieking sound.

Although I know he loves me and other family members very much,he has never been affectionate.when I go to cuddle him he just keeps his arms by his side,and when I go to kiss him it's always on his cheek or forehead as he never kisses back.even as a baby he never blew kisses. (He is 6 now,but I also have a 2 year old who always kisses and cuddles and blows kisses)

He quite often jumps on sofas or climbs on the dining room table,and when I ask him to stop it's just like he doesn't even hear me.

he has always had trouble making friends,and quite often ends up playing with children who are much younger than him.once when we were at the park,two boys his age were chasing each other,but rather than introducing himself and asking if he could play,he just started chasing them around.I could see they were getting annoyed and asked him to come play with me in a different bit of the park,and he said "no mum I'm playing with my friends" which broke my heart as I could see the boys were annoyed at him.
he only has one friend at school,and a while ago his friends mum told me my son was upsetting that friend by always calling him a copy car.when I asked him about it he just told me "but he is a copy cat".I asked him if he still wanted him as a friend,and he said yes,so I had to explain to him that his friend wouldn't want to be friends with him anymore if he said things like that.
He doesn't really get "involved" at other childrens birthday parties.I have to remind him to stop running around as it is party game/food time etc.at one birthday they had a football activity,and he hates football so he just point blank refused to join in the activity.

If he feels something isn't fair,he will shout and scream about it and argue his point for what feels like forever.for example he gets to go on his iPad for an hour before bedtime.last night the WiFi went down 5 minutes before his hour was up.I had said to him just before the WiFi went down that he has time to watch one last video on YouTube before his hour was up,but then he clicked on it and the WiFi went down.he was screaming shouting and crying,saying but you said I had one last video.I explained that I can't help the WiFi breaking,and tomorrow evening you can have one extra video after your hour is up to make up for the one you are missing tonight.but there was literally no reasoning with him.he was still extremely upset and shouting "but you said I can have one last video"

He needs constant reminding to get dressed/get shoes on/get in and out of the car. (Sounds strange but every time we enter/exit the car I must say at least 5 times "come on then get in/out of the car.and when he's getting dressed for school I must remind him at least 10 times)

He is sometimes gets quite anxious about things.lately asking a lot of questions about what will happen if he accidentally gets mud,bleach,a fly,decking oil etc in his mouth and I constantly reassure him it's nothing to worry about and these things haven't even gotten into his mouth,but if a little speck of something actually did get in there he will be fine.

He is such a lovely,bright,funny and caring little boy.I feel bad for rambling on for this long,but I just feel like these charachteristics may be aspergers,and would like to know what somebody who knows aspergers well thinks?
Thank you so much for reading,and if you have any questions please ask.

it does sound like he might well be OTS (on the spectrum). for what it's worth, when i was young i absolutely hated having to go to birthday parties.

Thank you for your reply.
it is reassuring to know that I may be right in my thinking.hopefully we will be refered for the assessment soon.

Can I ask if you know what sort of thing my son should expect for the assessment?all I have said is that he may have a visit at home or at school and be asked some questions by a doctor,but he really wants a more in depth explanation,and although I have googled it, the answers from Google are pretty vague.

i found out i had an ASD in my mid 40s. so, i don't have any experience of being diagnosed as a child. indeed, the diagnosis i was erroneously given was a mixed PD. you might try the national autistic society (www.autism.org.uk). they would no doubt be willing to try to give you some answers. nevertheless, basically a diagnosis seeks to identify the triad of social impairments. often third hand accounts, such as from parents and teachers, play a significant part.

Thank you for your reply.and thank you for the website link.I will have a look on there now.